Post Date December, 03 2023
Why are married men obsessed with extramarital affairs? Although extramarital love is no longer a strange thing in today's marital life, we all know that the emergence of extramarital love can bring great harm to families. Gender health experts are now analyzing the reasons why married men are obsessed with extramarital love.
Flower heart cause
Evolutionary psychologists have explained why men are more promiscuous than women from the perspective of gene transmission. Similar to sexual activity, men have almost no involvement, and women are highly likely to conceive in September. In theory, an ancient man with a casual private life can lead to many women becoming pregnant and giving birth to a large number of offspring within a year, but no matter how many people a ancient woman had sexual relations with, she could only have one child within a year. The reproductive benefits obtained by men from short-term sexual behavior are much greater than those of women, which leads to a much greater desire for short-term sexual behavior in men than in women.
Stable relationship
However, a man's willingness to enter a stable sexual relationship does not necessarily mean he is content with 'monogamy'. In fact, having some short-term sexual relationships in addition to a stable sexual relationship is more conducive to gene transmission. Of course, these short-term sexual relationships are not without costs, for example, having multiple sexual partners is more likely to cause diseases; The image of a 'libertine' will make it difficult for him to find a suitable long-term spouse; He may face retaliation from his wife. In other words, he must find a way to make his short-term gains outweigh his efforts. To address this issue, men have evolved a series of instinctive tendencies, which psychologists refer to as short-term mate selection strategies.
Choose a spouse
When it comes to choosing short-term partners, men's strategies are completely different. A survey found that when men choose short-term sexual partners, they place lower standards on their attractiveness, health, education level, friendship, sense of responsibility, and do not require much loyalty from the other party. "Avoiding commitment" is the core of their short-term mate selection strategy. Because once there is a commitment, short-term relationships will evolve into long-term relationships, which goes against his wishes.
Research has found that when choosing short-term sexual partners, men tend to reject women who demand commitment. Many experienced men have this experience: after a night of sexual intercourse, their partner's charm disappears and they really want to leave. This to some extent proves that men have evolved a psychological mechanism to quickly break up with each other after short-term sexual relationships, in order to minimize investment.
I hope that when couples encounter various conflicts in their marital life, they should be more rational in dealing with and resolving them, because managing marriage is a matter of two people. When a man has an extramarital affair, women must be rational and defend their marriage correctly.
