Post Date December, 03 2023
A Zi originally had a happy family. Although her husband was introverted, she was very family oriented. But in the past half a year, the husband has changed, and he has become a blind eye at home. When guests come to the house, they also use an excuse to go away. They don't want to see their parents-in-law on holidays, and dare not face their wife, so they even have to turn off the light when talking with Ah Zi.
Zi therefore thought that he must have done something wrong, and when he repeatedly asked him what he was worried about, he was flushed and could not say it. Since you can't ask, it's better to divorce. My friend suggested that Ah Zi should not be hasty, not go to court first, but take her husband to see a psychologist.
The conversation between the husband and the doctor seemed much smoother, but he still bowed his head more and raised his head less. He complained that he was very distressed: he did not concentrate at work and did not dare to communicate with his colleagues. He repeatedly stated that he had not done anything wrong and was not timid before. Somehow, he gradually became afraid to see people and look at people. Especially young women felt heartbeats, blushes and trembles when they met them, so that they did not dare to face their wives later.
In fact, Zi's husband did not do anything bad, but suffered from a physiological and psychological disease - phobic neurosis. His performance is a pathological reaction.
The phobic neurosis, also known as phobia, is the patient's internal experience of unusual fear and nervousness when facing certain special situations, objects or interacting with people, which can cause blushing, shortness of breath, sweating, palpitation, changes in blood pressure, and even have symptoms of vegetative nervous system such as nausea, vomiting, and fainting, thus causing avoidance reactions. The patient knows that the terrorist object has no real threat to him and that his fear reaction is extremely unreasonable, but it still appears repeatedly in the same situation, which is difficult to control, thus affecting his normal life and work.
The cause of phobia is not very clear. It usually has three types.
One is agoraphobia, which is more common, accounting for about 60% of all cases. Patients are afraid of public places, so they are afraid to use public transportation tools, afraid to go to crowded places, such as shops, restaurants, markets, etc., afraid to wait in line, afraid to go out, and in serious cases, afraid to go out at home for a long time.
The other is the social phobia like her husband's, which is mainly manifested in the fear of being in full view of the public, afraid of others looking at her, afraid of talking, afraid of being seen by others, or believing that her blush has been seen by others, so she is nervous, does not look at others, and even dare not face her wife.
Another type is simple phobia, which is manifested by fear of certain special objects, scenes or activities, such as not daring to cross the bridge, fear that the bridge will collapse and fall into the water, fear that various small animals will bite themselves, etc.
For phobia, drugs are mainly used to control anxiety or panic attacks, and then better behavioral therapies are used to eliminate their avoidance behavior. Qigong, comprehension therapy and relaxation therapy are also good treatment methods.
In the treatment of social phobia, we should also pay attention to helping patients remove a word of "fear" from their psychology, remove the sense of inferiority in social life, establish the spirit of self-improvement, self-confidence and self-reliance, and recognize that normal social activities are not mysterious, but just social interaction and entertainment, and pay too much attention to themselves
Speech and behavior in social interaction are redundant, and should be easygoing, generous and natural. When the patient's condition has improved, the therapist or family member should take the patient to participate in social activities appropriately, and gradually until recovery.
After a period of treatment, Zi's husband's fear was relieved, and his confidence was restored. The husband and wife were as good as ever. They also came to the hospital with candy, and thanked the doctor for "injecting" a "recovery needle" for their nearly-breaking marriage.
