Post Date April, 15 2023
For many men, the benefit of marriage is always having a place of their own, but the problem is that there can only be one place. So, men always procrastinate and don't want to imprison themselves with marriage too early. Recently, a study by German psychologists found that many men are unwilling to get married before the age of 25 because their brains are not fully developed at this time. However, Song Yumei from the Beijing Sunshine Wisdom Family Counseling Center believes that besides this physiological reason, there are other psychological factors that affect men's late marriage.
Women can't afford to wait and have to break up
During the interview, 26-year-old Mengmeng told reporters that she and her boyfriend recently broke up for a simple reason - the woman had reached the age of marriage, while the man was hesitant to get married.
Unable to wait, we had to break up. He said he doesn't mean he doesn't love me, but if he gets married now, it's better to put a knife around his neck. I really don't understand why men have to wait until 30 before getting married. Maybe they want to play for a few more years and give themselves more choices
In response, cute boyfriend Xiao Peng explained that he didn't want to get married now because he wasn't mentally and materially prepared. We don't have the qualifications to get married at all. We don't have a house or a car, so what's the point of getting married? Besides, I just graduated from graduate school and always feel like I'm just a child, so I can't afford to take on a family. At the same time, Xiao Peng admitted that he and Mengmeng do need more time to fit in.
People who dare not marry have personality weaknesses
Either "flash marriage" or delaying marriage, men nowadays seem to deliberately oppose women. Regarding the mentality of men who insist on not getting married before the age of 25, Song Yumei makes the following analysis:
Firstly, some of them are more mature and cautious in their approach to marriage. Compared to people who have 'flash marriages' or' divorces', they understand the meaning of marriage to a person better and therefore do not make hasty decisions. However, Song Yumei also stated that these people often exhibit personality weaknesses such as hesitancy and hesitation in their daily lives. Applying this personality to emotions can easily lead to the loss of true love
Secondly, for another group of people, they are unwilling to get married because they want to constantly try and find a woman who truly suits them. As Xiao Peng said, "It's easy to find a girlfriend, but it's important to be cautious when finding a wife." It's during this frequent change process that they hurt too many women, and they often end up being picky and finding their "true princess" is difficult.
Finally, late marriage for men is a product of the times. In modern society, most people choose to cohabit before marriage, so whether to get married or not is just a difference on paper. "Song Yumei said, many people are afraid of taking on the responsibility after marriage because getting married means taking on the responsibility of two families, which is what many men want to avoid, especially with only children.
Women, don't be emotional
Men clearly have an advantage in terms of age and marriage. So, as a woman, are you waiting hard for the man who is reluctant to get married, or are you pretending to be cool and turn around and leave? Song Yumei believes that while women prioritize love, they cannot lose their sanity. You need to be clear about what kind of man you are facing and what kind of marriage you need
Among the interviewees I met, when a cynical man doesn't want to get married, some women will persist in letting go for this relationship that has lasted for several years. In fact, at this time, continuing is not the result, and the person who hurts the most is themselves. This type of woman, who only loves love, might as well keep her last dignity and reserve and leave.
If you are certain that this man is worth waiting for a few years, then it's okay to get married again in a few years. However, this must be based on your mutual trust, and at the same time, do not ignore the changes that time can make to people. "Song Yumei reminds that the killer of love is sometimes not extramarital affairs, but time.
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)
