Hello! My husband and I have been married for five years. When we were in love, he was in Beijing and I never doubted him. He is now doing some business here and is under a lot of pressure. He doesn't have to worry about his family matters, and sometimes he doesn't go home at night. When I ask him, he says he's quiet in the office and he's afraid he won't be able to sleep when he comes back. I don't believe it. As long as he doesn't come home, I can't sleep and I keep calling him, He said there were no such things outside, he just wanted to stay alone and think about something. I just doubted him, and this would greatly affect the relationship between our husband and wife. I am very scared, why doesn't my husband want to go home?
Doctor of Psychology Q&A:
I understand your current concerns. My husband always comes back late because he is busy with work, which makes you very anxious and also doubts his marital loyalty. Nowadays, there is a lot of social pressure, and some business people may stay in the office at night busy with work. However, if they always come home late with various excuses, keep calling and texting, and often answer behind your back or sneak around, there must be another reason. The reasons for not going home are generally as follows:
1. I am really busy with work and need to work overtime.
2. I don't have a common language with you or my wife is nagging, upset, doesn't want to go home after work, and has nowhere to go. I want to be quiet in the office.
3. Chat online in the office to find spiritual support or date someone at work.
4. Having an extramarital affair requires having your own space and time, and you don't want to go home.
In short, if your husband always has excuses, you need to carefully observe which situation it belongs to, and then consider how to improve it.