Post Date April, 15 2023
Why are more and more people getting divorced? According to data from the Municipal Civil Affairs Bureau, 120000 couples divorced in Chongqing last year, with an average of 329 couples per day. Among them, the highest proportion of divorces are between the ages of 40 and 49, and women born in the 1980s and 1990s are more impulsive in divorces than men.
Yesterday, the reporter learned from the Municipal Civil Affairs Bureau that in 2015, a total of 291871 newlyweds registered for marriage in the city, with the 80s and 90s accounting for about 75% of the total number of marriages. Last year, 120086 couples were divorced in the city, with an average of 329 couples receiving divorce certificates every day. Compared to 2014, the number of marriages in 2015 slightly decreased and overall stabilized, with a slight increase in the number of divorces.
Yubei gets married the most, Yuzhong gets divorced the least
Data shows that in 2015, the number of registered marriages and divorces in Yubei District was the highest in the city: 14286 marriages and 6832 divorces. The area with the lowest number of marriages is Dadukou District, with 4573 couples. In 2015, Yuzhong District got married to 6454 couples, ranking 7th among the nine districts in the main city, with 2775 divorced couples, making it the district with the lowest number of divorces in the main city.
Analysis: The head of the Marriage Registration Office in Yubei District said, "Yubei District is an important town for the development of emerging industries in the main city, with a prominent population accumulation effect and a larger population base. The majority of the immigrants are young people, resulting in a large number of marriages." The head of the Marriage Registration Office in Yuzhong District believes that in the past two years, marriage and family service stations and marriage happiness hotlines have penetrated into people's lives, and through frontline professional counselors' psychological counseling and crisis intervention, Many couples who are impulsively seeking divorce receive prompt persuasion. Medical Health Network Gender Health
20-29 years old
Marriage accounts for up to 70% of the total population
The age of 20-29 is still the golden age for marriage, accounting for nearly 70% of the total number of marriages, with the highest number of marriages occurring between the ages of 25-29.
Some netizens have said that the phenomenon of early marriage is more pronounced among the post-90s generation compared to the post-70s and post-80s generations. Is it really what netizens say? From the 2015 city wide marriage data, there were 58892 married males born between 1990 and 1995, accounting for 20.2% of male marriages, second only to the number of marriages born between 1985 and 1990. There were 108191 married women born between 1990 and 1995, accounting for 37.1% of the total number of female marriages. Among them, young women aged 20 to 24 accounted for the majority, making them the highest number of female marriages. There are 167083 post-90s married between the ages of 20 and 24, and 6209 divorced women before the end of the year.
Analysis: "It can be seen that there are not a few small couples who get married or divorced in a flash, and women are not rational." According to the marriage counselor and national second level psychological counselor at the Jiulongpo District Marriage Registration Office, the post-90s generation has a strong sense of self care and tends to have a more straightforward sense of liking and love when considering their marriage partners.
Among the post-90s divorcees, women have the greatest psychological gap. They often quickly enter marriage with romantic and passionate aspirations, facing problems such as mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship, financial pressure, and communication between spouses. They find that marriage is not as beautiful as they imagined, and they use the most direct way to solve the problem through divorce. It is believed that the three-year newlywed period belongs to the period of adjustment, and it is a pity that both parties give up during the adjustment period.
35-39 years old
The energy for stable marriage lies in children
Compared to other age groups, marriages between the ages of 35 and 39 are more stable. In this age group, 18362 men registered for marriage, accounting for 6.3% of male marriages, and 16544 divorces, accounting for 13.8% of male divorces; 15014 women registered for marriage, accounting for 5.1% of female marriages, and 14975 divorces, accounting for 12.5% of female divorces. From a data perspective, the overall number of marriages and divorces among men and women in this age group is the lowest.
Analysis: Zhou Yongsheng, a marriage and family volunteer and renowned marriage expert at Chongqing Marriage Registration Center, analyzed that relationships tend to be most stable at this age group. From a family perspective, the doll is not big, and couples focus their energy on the child; Secondly, the careers of couples in this age group are on the rise. There may be arguments, but most families will prioritize their children and not reach the point of divorce. As the child reaches adulthood, divorce will peak, with the watershed being after the child's college entrance examination.
40-49 years old
Mid life crisis ushers in peak divorce
Why are more and more people getting divorced in various age groups, and middle-aged men and women aged 40-49 are experiencing a peak in divorce. Among them, 40969 men registered for divorce, accounting for 34.1% of the male registered population. 34294 women registered for divorce, accounting for 28.6% of the female registered population. Secondly, the age group with higher divorce rates among women is concentrated between 25 and 29 years old, accounting for 21.4% of the female registered population.
Analysis: "At this stage of marriage, after seven years of itching, I can't bear it anymore." Zhou Yongsheng said that the freshness of couples in this age group continues to decrease, even numb. Secondly, the couple is facing a middle-aged crisis, coupled with early menopause. In addition, on the spiritual level, there is aging at the top and downward pressure at the bottom, which can also make people anxious.
How can couples safely survive the crisis of middle age in marriage? Zhou Yongsheng suggests that even if you are busy with work, you should set aside a fixed time to spend time together and cultivate common hobbies, such as playing basketball and traveling.
After 0, after 90
Women divorce more impulsively than men
Yesterday, Li Jiurong, a volunteer who provides marriage mediation services at the Marriage Registration Center in Yuzhong District, stated that in the past year, among the couples who have come for divorce, the post-70s belong to the weak category. When they come for divorce, various documents and clauses in the divorce agreement are very complete, and almost all eight horses cannot be retrieved; The post-80s and post-90s are impulsive and emotional, but often they can persuade and reconcile.
Last year, there were 2476 couples in the Jiulongpo District Divorce Buffer Room who came to handle divorce and showed irrational emotions. They conducted marital crisis mediation, and 779 of them successfully reconciled. The counselor concluded that, except for couples who have already made up their minds, most of the couples who have successfully reconciled are young couples born in the 1980s and 1990s. The reasons for divorce mostly revolve around two aspects: conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and poor communication between the couple. When it comes to discussing divorce, it is often the woman who impulsively proposes divorce, while the man shows unwillingness. The woman revealed various reasons for dissatisfaction and unhappiness in her marital life, with the common reason being 'he no longer loves me'.
Case: In mid October 2015, a couple born in the 1980s living near the Chongqing Zoo were about to divorce. It turned out that the night before, the man and his brother had a drink together and went home, apologizing to the woman hoping for forgiveness. Unexpectedly, she was caught by the woman early the next morning, and she couldn't help but drag the man to the divorce room.
The woman said that before getting married, he can still hold onto his horse. The man likes to drink, but he also listens to his own words. Unexpectedly, after getting married, the man has not changed his drinking habits, and sometimes he does not listen to the woman's greetings. The man did make mistakes first, and drinking hurts both the body and emotions, but the behavior of loving drinking is known to the woman before marriage. The reason why the woman's aversion doubles after marriage is because of a psychological change after marriage: Firstly, before marriage, the man thinks that drinking alcohol is cool and very manly. The real life after marriage makes her more mature and her mind changes. Secondly, after marriage, becoming a family revolves around daily life, and economic pressure becomes a concern for the woman. The woman's feelings of caring for her family and me are also reasonable. At this time, the man needs to take responsibility, and the woman needs to pay attention to effective communication
Expert advice
Don't argue, "climb" or "roll", just talk about the situation and don't dig up old accounts
The post-80s and post-90s belong to the impulsive type. When they enter a marriage and get divorced, it is often not because a third party intervenes, but because of personality discord. Compared to men, women born in the 1980s tend to be more impatient. "In the eyes of Li Jiurong, a volunteer for marriage mediation services, when couples argue," crawling "," rolling "," divorce ", etc. These are sensitive words to argue, and neither the man nor the woman should say them easily.
Why are there more and more people getting divorced, and many couples argue, always going from one thing to another to dig up old scores. Couples should understand that arguments should be based on the facts, and if they continue, they will end up endlessly affecting their relationship. The key is that they have no meaning yet
