"In ancient times, it was normal for men to have three wives and four concubines. In modern society, monogamy cannot change a man's lustful nature. Going out to find a lover is even more logical.".
First, the foundation of marriage is unstable.
Most mature men were born in the 1960s, and most marriages of those born in that era still follow the "orders of parents and the agreement of matchmakers". Even if marriage is autonomous, their marriage awareness is quite weak. Therefore, two people can get married and sleep under a quilt without much understanding in advance. Many people only have a superficial contact, even realizing that marriage is only a matter of half a month. At that time, both men and women had very simple thoughts. Marriage was for the sake of physical needs and reproduction, and the factors of emotional needs were extremely small. Obviously, this kind of marriage lacks love loyalty, and as for the responsibilities of marriage, they naturally become shackles of the outside world. Especially in such an era of open and pluralistic thinking, such shackles can easily become lice on bald people's heads, and the more noticeable they become, the more painful they become.
Second, the level of education they receive is insufficient.
My reason may touch the sensitive nerves of some mature men, but I think it is an indisputable fact. After all, China's educational resources were quite scarce at that time. On the surface, the level of education seems to have nothing to do with marriage, and more importantly, it has no direct connection with men's preference for "concubines.". But when you think about it, there are deep reasons for them. Imagine that if a person does not receive enough education, they will lack sufficient thinking about society, life, and marriage. As a result, their goals in life cannot be clearly defined or their positioning is not high, and they are easily tempted by some mundane, superficial, and low-level tastes. They are often difficult to set themselves free in the face of sensory and physical pleasures. From this point of view, it also greatly increases the possibility of their "concubinage" outside of marriage.
Third, there is a great disparity in social power and wealth.
Nowadays, there is a popular saying among girls, "If a woman does well, it's better to marry well.". Having said that, it is by no means an easy thing for a woman to marry well, even if it can be met but not desired. Therefore, under such conditions, women who want to marry well tend to have a opportunistic idea. Instead of spending a lifetime struggling and toiling, it is better to focus on married mature men with successful careers and enjoy their success. As for whether to marry or not, modern young women are far more open to it than previous generations. In fact, young women's opportunism, in addition to their own hobbies and aversion to work, still has its social reasons. In today's society, the gap between rich and poor is too great, and money worship is prevalent. Many young women from poor backgrounds, in order to pursue their so-called life goals, are easily "married to a wealthy family without a family", become ill and seek medical treatment in disorder, and settle down with their youthful appearance.
(Intern Editor: Zhao Minqing)