Post Date April, 15 2023
Where does the virgin complex of Chinese men come from
It is true that a man always yearns to be the first man of his woman in his heart. This is what we call the virgin complex. In traditional weddings, the bride wears a white and flawless wedding dress, symbolizing that her heart and body devoted to her lover are as pure and flawless as the wedding dress she wears.
This idea of respecting women is still followed today.
If the man hears rumors about his partner such as "Hey, kid, be careful, that woman has a lot of gossip." or "That woman has had such a hand with XXX before" before he gets engaged, he will hesitate, and even hear about the things that eventually lead to the end of the engagement.
If the woman is not a virgin, then even in modern times, I'm afraid there will be trouble after marriage. In contrast, women's requirements for men's virginity are very weak. Among women, few people require their marriage partners to keep virginity. So why is the difference in the concept of chastity between men and women?
In the heart of the man who seeks virginity, in addition to his longing for things that have not been touched by others, there is also a desire to manipulate his favorite woman according to his own wishes. Specifically, he said, this includes a kind of expectation of men, that is, "if she can communicate with a virgin woman, then she will not be able to mature sexually as she imagined?" But from another perspective, we will find that there is also a male mentality in this idea that men can transform women as they like and treat women as playthings. The virgin secret that men don't know
It may be too much to say about toys, but the idea that men want to be in a dominant position is undeniable.
The phenomenon of overemphasis on women and the idea that men can transform women as they please all appeared after the Kamakura era in the Middle Ages. They were fixed with the establishment of the social order of Samurai. It can be said that they are the product of a male-centered society.
On this point, Yu Xie Jingzi, who participated in the women's liberation movement, said: "It is obvious that the respect for women is the result of men's compulsion." She believed that the so-called chastity and virginity complex is only the unilateral desire of men.
This assertion is very correct, and there is no room for refutation. But when we begin to explore the inner world of men who respect women, we will find that there is a deep unease hidden in it, that is, they worry that if the other person is not a virgin, they may be deeply affected by the past sexual experience, deeply branded with the sexual habits of the former boyfriend, and will be too mature in sexual aspects.
(Intern editor: Chen Hao)
