Why can't I do a good job during my first sexual intercourse? What's the real feeling about my first sexual experience

Although most women experience bleeding and varying degrees of pain during their first sexual encounter, due to the good relationship between the two parties during sexual intercourse, women view this experience as an obligation and therefore develop a sense of belonging; If the relationship between both parties is not good, it will exacerbate the sense of disgust.

The first experience is mainly based on positive feelings - a sense of obligation and belonging

The first time I had a life was very painful, especially painful. I really accepted it purely for love, because love has to endure and give. He couldn't bear it anymore and said, 'It's okay to look at your pain. After the first time, I felt like everyone in the world had changed. When I saw someone on the street, I thought,' He would do that thing at night, as if he had seen the other side of the person. ' After we got married, our sexual life was never successful, and it took several days to succeed. We didn't have much pleasure, only felt satisfied psychologically. We had sex since we registered, and we hadn't had a wedding yet. The first time we had nothing but pain, there was a feeling that we were adults from now on

Our first time didn't feel much. We felt a bit nervous and didn't feel much pain, so we came over in a daze. "" My first sexual intercourse was at the age of 21, before marriage. I didn't feel particularly painful. "... He was under a lot of psychological pressure on the day of his marriage. Shooted that night without putting it in. He said at the time, 'I can't do it, we have to get divorced.'. It took about a month after marriage to truly make it. I feel a little pain and have shed some blood. He has a small penis and is not physically strong, so he has a lot of psychological pressure The first time it was particularly painful, but sometimes it also hurts afterwards

The first experience is mainly negative feelings - aversion

Most women who experience disgust and pain when recalling their first sexual experience are either divorced or have a bad relationship with their husbands. From this perspective, sexual life and marital relationships are closely related, but it is difficult to determine which one is the cause or effect of the two; It is highly likely that it is mutually causal - it is because of bad emotions that one feels disgusted with sexual intercourse; And because of a bad impression of sexual intercourse, it exacerbates the deterioration of marital relationships.

Some women have a bad feeling about their first experience, not because of their aversion to the situation itself, but because the object of their first sexual relationship was not their husband but their lover, and there was too much psychological pressure: 'My first time was not with my husband. I was already quite young at that time. I remember when we kissed, I was very scared and hated them, thinking that they had hurt me.'.

I feel that it is an instinctive fear, invisibly related to the Chinese style education I received from a young age. I initially rejected this matter. He begged me, but I kept refusing until I couldn't resist it. In fact, his traditional moral concepts are also very strong. We are just ordinary boyfriend and girlfriend, he has a wife. I still value the first time very much

Although women have different feelings about their first sexual experience, they mostly value it because it is the "first time" in their life experience. There are many "firsts" in a person's life, and I remember a mother who said how she observed her child's "firsts" with joy: the first time she spoke, the first time she walked, the first time she could read, and so on.

However, in the minds of many women, the first sexual intercourse has a different meaning from other 'firsts' - losing virginity, becoming' adults', becoming a different kind of person from before; This feeling should be seen primarily as originating from psychology, rather than physiology. That is to say, the difference between this "first time" and other "first times" mainly comes from social norms and the special significance that society assigns to sexual behavior.