Post Date December, 02 2023
Men are most afraid of women's nagging from childhood
Before marriage, women are afraid of their mother's nagging, and after marriage, they are afraid of their wife's nagging. Women also feel that men are inhuman. Why can't men listen to women talk about their feelings, and it's hard to tell their feelings?
Because men and women are trained differently
One day a woman said to her man
"You never took me out to play."
In this sentence, the key thing men hear is "go out", which is the least emotional word in the whole sentence. Since the man's mind is directly thinking of "events" rather than feelings, he responds to the word "go out" and begins to check his calendar. "When was the last time we went out? Well, it was last week..." "Don't exaggerate. How could I never take you out!" He didn't understand women's use of the words "all" and "never". It was to emphasize a strong feeling, not really count the times. This is the part that men can't understand.
Another example
Women tell lovers
"I'm tired and don't want to do it."
The key word of a woman is "tired", which is the most emotional word in the whole sentence, but it is easy to be ignored by a man. He thinks "things" is the key word, so he will respond: "No one does things, why don't you ask me to do it?", "Why do you do a little more?", "Why don't you let others help you?" or "You always set the standard too high, and then complain that things can't be done."
In fact, women are not worried about "doing too much"
I just want to be comforted by a man
"I know you are tired."
Unfortunately, most men automatically ignore women's emotional cues
Why do men and women talk like this?
The author recalled that a few days ago, in the food street of a department store, a mother bought a red bean cake for a girl who seemed to be about two or three years old.
The mother asked the little girl, "How do you feel about the red bean cake?"
The little girl said childishly, "Soft feeling!"
Mom said, "It should be a happy feeling!"
Dialogue like this
Maybe the comparison will appear between mother and daughter
If it's for my son
Mom seldom said that, did she?
No wonder that women and men pay different attention to different levels. Imagine that the little girl went to buy red bean cake with her husband after growing up and getting married. She may want to share the happiness of red bean cake with her husband, but most husbands only know that the red bean cake is 20 yuan.
And
When the mother is teaching her daughter
Will tell her
"You should know how to act coquettishly!"
But when I teach my son
Mom would hope he could solve the problem effectively
This is also a completely different way of education
Because men and women have different language training since childhood, their ways of thinking and expression are naturally different. So when they grow up, women tend to think emotionally and men tend to think rationally. Therefore, men often cannot understand what women say.
Because for men
"Feeling" means "connecting"
Women attach importance to "feeling" and often talk about "I'm just sharing my feeling". However, "feeling" can cause great pressure on men, because for men, "feeling" means "connecting".
In the process of men's growth
His male identity comes from "disconnection"
As a child, girls would hold hands with their mother and wear women's clothes, but boys were taught from an early age that "you should start to leave your mother and be like a little man". Therefore, if you want to make yourself like a little man, you must not run to hold hands with your father and wear father-son clothes, but dare to walk on the road with your head high.
The topic of male growth is "disconnection"
It makes them feel like adults
On the road of marriage, at the beginning, men originally wanted to be a "hero", pursuing women like heroes, and marrying their favorite women home. Who knows that after marriage, women want to be "mothers", nagging and complaining all day long, which will make men feel that they are sucked back into the links cut off in childhood.
Most men have a hidden fear that they will be sucked back into the control of the mother and unable to move. Usually, a mother will let her son go after he gets married. At this time, if his wife is promoted to his other "mother", it is easy to make a man want to run away, and the problem of running away may become a woman's most worried affair; The average man may turn to work and even build an invisible wall inside. Therefore, when women find these warnings, they need to adjust their communication methods.
