What should parents pay attention to when meeting their boyfriend for the first time after saving him
There have been instances of conflicts and even breakups between male and female friends, but ultimately trying to salvage their boyfriend through hard work. After redemption, the relationship with the boyfriend needs to be more maintained and nurtured in order to maintain it better. It is undoubtedly a commendable thing to eventually reach the level of meeting the parents of the male partner, but due to previous redemption experiences, it is necessary to pay attention when meeting the parents in order to leave a good impression in their hearts.
1、 Try to avoid discussing unpleasant topics that were once separated as much as possible
No matter what prompted the two to separate in the first place, it is enough to finally save their boyfriend. Since the previous events have already passed, try not to mention them again. Because men usually don't communicate with their parents about such things, as long as you don't mention them, their parents may not even know that there was such a strong conflict between you two.
In fact, regardless of the original reason, there must have been some shortcomings in both of them. Now that they have reconciled as before, it naturally indicates that the conflicts between the two have been well resolved or corresponding solutions have been found. So now that everything has returned to normal, it's better not to mention the things that happened in the past as much as possible, and just live a normal life like this.
The most important thing when meeting the father's parents for the first time is stability. The most important thing parents want to see as a parent is that their children can live a stable and healthy life. Therefore, no matter what has happened before, as long as parents do not ask, they must pay attention to avoiding mentioning it, weakening conflicts, and mainly showing the harmonious side of the two to parents, in order to make them more satisfied. Of course, don't cover up or deceive, honesty is also very important in the first meeting.
2、 Be respectful and gentle, don't act too jumpy and casual
When meeting for the first time, you should also pay attention to controlling your small temper and other overly detached aspects. Influenced by traditional culture, most Chinese people hope that their daughter-in-law can be gentle, courteous, and virtuous, in order to ensure future family harmony, so that everyone can get along well in the future and reduce conflicts. Therefore, when meeting for the first time, showing deference generally does not leave a bad impression.
Also, through my boyfriend, I learned about the preferences, taboos, and lifestyle habits of the male parent, so that there would be no conflicts during the first meeting. For example, if the parents of the male partner believe in Buddhism, then when ordering food, they must try to be as simple and elegant as possible, and order fewer meat dishes; If the other party is from a scholarly family, it is important to pay attention to your own language and behavior during conversations. Being generous and generous can often better win the favor of the other party's parents.
In summary, when meeting for the first time, don't appear too casual. Even if it's your true nature, try to be as restrained as possible. This demonstrates the respect and prudence of the younger generation towards their elders, as well as the importance they attach to this relationship. Since you have developed to the point of meeting your parents, you are naturally prepared to spend the rest of your life together. Although love is only a matter of two people, marriage is not. It is related to multiple families and the future life trajectory of more people. It shows that you are serious and valued enough to make the other parent more satisfied and confident.