What should parents do when their children see them having sex? How to Properly Provide Sexual Education to Children

Children generally do not sleep separately from their parents until the age of five or six, and it is also common for them to sleep together. Couples cannot enjoy love before their children go to bed, but even if avoided, there may be awkward collisions. What should parents do if they have sex and are hit by their children? What is the psychological impact of children witnessing adult sexual intercourse? In fact, this is dangerous for both parents and children, but there are also opportunities for danger. Here are some suggestions from parents to help you solve awkwardness and become a good opportunity for parents and children to face sexual issues honestly.

Having sex and being hit by a child, parents don't care what to do

1. The guardian is likely to feel surprised, shy, and angry, which is a very normal psychological reaction at the time. However, it is necessary to calm down and try to digest this emotion in a short period of time. Do not scold the child angrily, as it will exacerbate the child's sense of shame and guilt. In addition to quickly covering and organizing body posture, attention should also be shifted to the child as soon as possible. This process naturally improves.

2. If the child asks what you are doing? It indicates that he knows nothing about it, and this is a great opportunity for sex education. Children have the right to know, and parents also have the right to know. What should we sue our children? This is a manifestation of parental love, and sexual behavior has been a natural behavior of humans since ancient times, with unique rules. Based on the child's age, provide concise explanations in the language they know. This is also an unexpected event for the child. He is not mentally prepared and should not be talking at length. The principle is what do you think we are doing? Knowing where a child's curiosity lies is not just about the parents' own sexual awkwardness, it's difficult to say. If the child keeps asking, parents should also stop appropriately. Due to too much information, children cannot digest it in a timely manner, especially in the current state of parents, which is not sufficient preparation for sex education for their children. Therefore, utilizing children's curiosity can continue educational knowledge in the near future.

3. If the child does not speak and turns around to walk away (pretending to sleep), it indicates that the child feels uncomfortable in the scene. It is not yet known whether he truly understands what sex is all about. At this time, parents should not actively communicate with their children. It is important to proactively understand children's understanding of sex in the near future and provide appropriate education on sexual knowledge.

4. If a child expresses any negative emotions, parents should communicate with the child in a timely manner as soon as possible. It is best to understand the reasons for the negative reactions of the child. If the child refuses to communicate, parents should also actively express themselves, such as "we are not fighting; he is not bullying me; we have not done anything shameful; we are willing to do such things; we love each other, which is one of the ways adults express love; this is our privacy, we are not with you, it is not that we do not love you anymore", and so on. The purpose is to seize opportunities, prevent or promptly correct children's negative attitudes towards sex, and even incorrect perceptions.

5. Avoiding complaints between couples can exacerbate children's discomfort and self blame.

6. Husbands and wives should comfort each other, learn from each other's lessons, discuss good methods, and try to avoid such incidents happening again. Do not let such accidents affect future sexual life.

Sexual reactions of children of all ages when encountering their parents

According to research reports, children of different ages unconsciously witness adult sexual intercourse, with different moods and completely different reactions.

Children aged 3-4, as well as many children who sleep with their parents, also have children who sleep with them. After the child went to bed, the parents did the room work. Couples forget about sex, their movements are too intense, or they are good at forgetting their shape. The joy they emit during sex awakens the child. When the child wakes up, they are not clear, their sleeping eyes are blurry, and when they see the movements of their parents' rooms, they are also monks, unable to touch their heads. It's unbelievable for parents to keep their children up late at night. I dozed off, didn't care about anything, turned over, and fell asleep again. Parents should immediately stop moving and be cautious when they notice their child is awake; If a child asks a question in a daze, it is important to calmly and cleverly explain and prevaricate, as this can cover up the past and easily dilute the child's impression of witnessing sexual intercourse. However, if time and time again, over time, children will become suspicious and even turn from unintentional witnessing to intentional witnessing. At this point, the matter becomes more complex.

Children aged 5-6 or slightly older may unintentionally witness adult sexual intercourse, although they may not understand the truth or the secrets behind it, they may be a bit curious and playful. Curious, just want to explore the truth; Fun, just want to imitate. They waited for the opportunity to witness again. They inquire and pass messages among their peers. They posed a series of questions in front of other trusted adults. When faced with opportunities, play sex games. Especially boys, regardless of the other person's will, force them to play sexual games and roughly imitate the movements of the room.

Children aged 10-12 who accidentally witness adult sexual intercourse are no longer curious. They often compare certain sexual actions to the violent actions of certain sex offenders in movies and television, as well as social customs and opinions, and make their own insightful views. They confuse sexual intercourse in the life of a legitimate couple with sexual violence committed by illegal hooligans. They believe that their father bullied their mother's husband and trampled on their sister.