Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband and I have been married for 20 years and have been fine. But two years ago, my husband never came back. After I looked for him, he told me that he didn't want to go home. He asked the reason and said that he wanted to change his way of life and want the life he wanted. In this way, I was confused and didn't agree. Later, he never returned home. So far, it has been two years.
He is a hardworking man. He has made some achievements in his career, and his income may be much better. But I don't know anything except his salary (my salary card has always been here). I never thought that he would leave me and my son one day. Because I always thought that I always believed that the light at home was always on for him, and he always had me and my son in his heart.
I just live alone with my son. His son is in a rebellious period. It is difficult to teach and hard to learn. But even when his teacher called his father, he was indifferent. But how much he loved his family, me and son before, I never understood why?
Why do people change so fast? I couldn't understand. Even if I had a junior, could he be a national cadre with higher education and public office who didn't understand that divorce for the junior would make his career go downhill and make his students suspect his moral character as a teacher.
Calm down, I think about our marriage. Is it because I have some unforgivable mistakes that make him decide to do such things? I don't know what causes a man to be bored with women. I am 40 years old this year, and I do not deliberately pursue appearance, but I am definitely not a slovenly woman. I will certainly dress myself before going out, and light makeup and heavy makeup depend on the occasion. When it comes to respecting the elderly, my father-in-law and mother-in-law are in other places, and we don't live together, so there is no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. On New Year's Day, I will call to greet them and buy gifts to send them back. What happens in my hometown at ordinary times, my husband directly sends money home. No matter how much, I have never stopped.
I have some problems. I know that I am a little coquettish and like to play coquettish. Because I don't have many chances to get together with my husband, I will stick to him when I can be together. Let me watch TV with me. I also love shopping and buying clothes. One or two items a month. Sometimes I love impulse spending, but it won't be very wasteful. My husband used to like to buy it for me when he was here. It's not for this reason, I think. As for progress? I am a little lazy and do a job that is not too hard. There are not many careers. I work from nine to five. I always think about his career, so I will do more at home. Don't let him worry about things at home... I have thought about it a lot, but I really don't know why my husband has become like this?
Weiqing Marriage Counselor:
You are his chaff wife, who shared hardships together and was a strong supporter of his career. But now, he has succeeded. I don't know when he began to have his own new life pursuit and goal, but he has been hidden in his heart and repressed, and you are still standing at the origin and waiting. I really think that the chaff wife will not go down, but I don't know that he has already ignored your waiting.
In fact, you are all right, but after more than ten years of ups and downs in your marriage, his understanding of life has changed qualitatively, and you are still the same. The success of his career has brought about the improvement of his social status, made him change his understanding of life, and gave birth to new emotional appeals. However, the nature of your lousy wife can no longer arouse his lust, and he gradually becomes inert to you. All these subtle changes can not be ignored by you. There is only one possibility. You realize that you can't control this marriage by your own ability, and accept the reality, Move him with your sincerity and hope that he will come back is the only thing you can do. However, his 2 years of cold domestic violence has made your marriage in name only, and he may have even lost his guilt when he first escaped from the marriage. If possible, he would like to formally end this marriage by leaving the house in a clean house. Do you still want to live in a marriage in vain?! If it cannot be changed, if it is doomed to wait for a long time, it is better to let yourself go, change a new way of life for yourself, live for yourself, and live for happiness.
