What should I do if my wife cheats before marriage and doesn't trust me after marriage

I also have some symptoms in my marriage now! I used to go on a business trip out of town and have a girlfriend at home. Every time I go on a business trip, I go out for a month and come back for a day or two at the end of the month. However, at this stage, my girlfriend has had an affair with someone else. The man only asked him to play mahjong a few times and finally made some promises. She believed them and wanted to follow him wholeheartedly. They only knew each other for over two months, and I have been with her for four years, At that time, I couldn't help but wonder why four years of love couldn't compare to two months of love! At that time, we were causing a breakup, and both parents knew it. In the end, our parents forced us to come together and get married! But due to my livelihood, I had to go out to do business again, and I came home less often. At that time, we agreed to make a phone call every night (she sent it for free). At first, it was okay, but now it often takes a few days to make a phone call, and the conversation time is getting shorter! I'm at a loss right now, I don't know if it's going to happen again like before getting married! In the year of getting married, I feel like I've become paranoid. Every night when she comes back late, I have to delve into what she's doing. I don't know if I don't have confidence in myself or her! My whole person is in a mess! I don't know what to do or how to handle this matter properly.

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Four years is not worth two months. It seems that sometimes relationships cannot be measured by time, especially love, which can happen in just one second. Do you believe it? Of course, this kind of thing also varies from person to person.

It can only be said that you spend too little time with your girlfriend before marriage. A woman, especially during a romantic relationship, hopes to be with her lover every second. And you, playing "tug of war" with your girlfriend like this for a long time, although it creates distance and beauty, time gradually wears away. If this is the case, what can four years be like, and eight years are useless? How long will you really be together? Women cannot tolerate loneliness, and your long-term absence from her side gives her too much lonely time to pass, giving other men opportunities to take advantage of. Your wife's cheating on others before marriage may seem to be her fault, but in fact, it's also your fault, isn't it?

It is undeniable that your wife's character does require a question mark, but unfortunately, you ultimately married her back home. Now that the raw rice has been cooked, she has become your expectant wife. So, why haven't you learned your lesson and still want to spend more time with her? Still creating an opportunity for her to cheat? Making money is important, and supporting a family is also a man's responsibility. However, it is not advisable for couples to live separately for a long time. What is the purpose of making money? Isn't it for two people to live a happier life? But are you happy, is your wife happy? Are you worried and suspicious about this every day, unable to concentrate on your work, and unable to sleep together as a husband and wife? Isn't this kind of life too sad and exhilarating.

For this reason, it is recommended that you do not stay away from home for a long time due to work. Even if life forces you, find a way to take your wife with you. In short, you cannot be separated from each other like this. Otherwise, not only are you worried about problems, but they will happen sooner or later. Since two people have entered a marriage, they need to build trust together, nurture each other, stay with each other, respect and love each other, always living in suspicion and distrust each other. The ultimate outcome can only be to hurt each other and go our separate ways.