Post Date April, 15 2023
My wife and I have been married for five years and have children. During this period, we separated for a period of time due to job transfer.
At that time, she fell in love with others because she was not in the same city. I tried to save it, but it was useless. She insisted on talking to that person. She was very determined. She could not be persuaded at any rate. She could not stay. I only agreed to divorce. After three years, her wife has never been able to give her a share in a family (the other party also has a family, but she divorced him without keeping her promise). In the past three years, she has paid a lot for him and almost poured all her love into her.
Now they broke their faces and parted hands. After she was hurt, she thought of the child, found me and wanted to come back to remarry. I also think this is good for children, so I remarried. When I felt that the emotional disaster was finally over, life did not return to normal as I thought.
After remarriage, although everything was the same, she refused to have sex with me. She said that remarriage is for the sake of the child. She has no feelings for me. Now she has no other idea. It is to take care of the family and the child, and hope that I respect her and do not infringe on her. I can't understand why she is like this. Is it because she is too hurt and has lost heart to her feelings? I still love her, but how can I unseal her cold heart? I was confused what to do. What should we do?
Ms. Wang:
After a long emotional detour, the wife who came back to her side has a very different attitude from before?
Don't worry. If she is willing to come back and you are willing to accept her again, that is to give each other a chance to heal their marriage. Since you can tolerate her mistakes, please be patient again, put aside the idea of reoccupying her and conquering her, and give her a period of recovery time.
She rejects the intimacy with men psychologically, which is reflected in her behavior. It can be said that the extramarital affair for which she was desperate consumed her trust and expectation for men. She returned to a safer place with suspicion, and the child became her only comfort. Since she now values "family love" most, let's use children to recall her ability to perceive love. A family, live in harmony and forget the past. Slowly she will realize your good intentions.
