Post Date December, 03 2023
I have been with him for nearly seven years. We are high school classmates, and we are together in senior three. I have been studying for him in college, and we have always been in long-distance love. We meet almost every week in college. He graduated two years earlier than I did. After working, he met less often, no more than five times a year. I love him more than he loves me. This Tomb Sweeping Day, I went to their house. This is my second time to go to their house. Their family all like me very much. They treat me as their daughter-in-law. When we had dinner, I went to toast with him. He also said that I was his wife. After dinner, someone added me QQ. I knew that the number was his first girlfriend's, and I didn't think much about it, so I added her. As a result, as soon as I saw the update of my friend, she updated the photos of her and my boyfriend to her space, It's a photo of a classmate party. I was deceived at that time. I didn't expect such a thing to happen. He didn't expect that she would add me. Later, he admitted to me that he had a relationship with her, and I didn't know what to do. The next day, the woman called him and sent a text message, but he didn't answer it. He said he would not contact her in the future. I sent a text message on his mobile phone to scold the woman, and he told me not to send it, saying why? I was even more angry, The woman also scolded me rightfully. Later, I found out that things were not so simple. He contacted her again. He had said before that he and I were not suitable. Even without this woman, they would break up. They had been separated several times before. Every time, I cried and begged him, saying that after so many years together, he was soft again. This time, he insisted that I share with her. I still stayed at his home. I didn't tell his family about it. During that time, he also ran to the airport to see the woman off. I was in the car with him. Finally, I didn't let him off the car. He called the woman and I broke his cell phone. He insisted on not staying with me. In the evening, he had dinner with a good brother of his. His brother also knew about his relationship with the woman, so he persuaded him, saying that the woman was not suitable for him. But my boyfriend confirmed that the woman's personality was very similar to him, and he was a heartless and unrestrained person. After the good brother's persuasion, his attitude changed. I went back to work, and he told me to let me wait for him for a week. He was very confused, I said that I would never forgive him. After I went to work, it was too painful. All my friends asked me to break up with him. I also felt that I really should break up, but I really loved him too much. I reflected on myself. Indeed, today's result, I was also wrong. My temper was really bad. Although I loved him, it made him feel depressed. I despised his friends before and never went out to dinner with him, My attitude towards their family is not very good, and I have been with him for so long. I never dared to tell my family that I am with him because his family is very ordinary. I mentioned that my family is opposed to him because I have been chasing me since I was young, and many of them are much better than him, but I am also very frank. For example, a rich second generation chasing me, I also told him that I want to live, he knows he can't give me, He said that I was not worth it with him. I could find a better one, but I knew in my heart that I only liked him. I sent him a message saying that I was wrong with the result today and I would change it slowly. He said that he only loved two women in his life, one was me and the other was his first love. Let me give him another three months. He said that his brain was blank now, but he admitted that he was still in contact with the woman. What I can't understand is that I have been with him for seven years, and he was with him for a short time in junior high school since his first love. Then I heard that they were also together for a long time during the Spring Festival. How could the feelings of seven years be better than her. I really don't know what to do now. I think it over. I really love him, and I am willing to live with him hard. I will soon persuade my family to accept him, but I feel that his heart is not with me. He is struggling now because his good brother tries to persuade him to turn back and thinks that the woman is not suitable for her. His family also likes me very much. Is he really in love with that woman? Is his first love? I have no plan and don't know how to deal with that woman. I just cry and feel sad. I lost nearly 10 pounds a week. I can't sleep every night. I miss him every minute. What should I do?
reply:
No one can deny that the feelings of first love are very beautiful, just as you also have first love. Your boyfriend has been with you for 7 years, but he still misses his first love and has betrayed your feelings. It can be seen that his feelings for you are not deep. Many times, the feelings of two people, especially love, are not necessarily accumulated by time. On the contrary, with the passage of time, they become the pusher of breaking up with each other.
In fact, you also know that you love your boyfriend more than he loves you. In addition, your conditions are superior to your boyfriend in all aspects, which makes him under pressure. Sometimes you deliberately show that you despise his friends and have a bad attitude towards his family, which will seriously hurt his self-esteem and aggravate his inferiority complex. How can he love you wholeheartedly? What's more, you have a bad temper, and your strength and domineering appear everywhere. How can you not let him suppress it? Can he fully enjoy the moisture and beauty of love with you? In this case, of course, he will compare the feelings of his first love and even go to the first love to seek compensation and comfort.
You should know that loving a person is not a one-sided possession centered on you, but a space for communication, respect and consideration. So it's OK for you to love him, but it's wrong to choose the way of love. Now, you have not entered into marriage. Everyone is equal in love. Your boyfriend has the right to choose his other half again. Then, you should give him the right to make the final choice. The only way you can fight for your love and your rival to compete effectively is to change your way of love, adjust your state of love, and more show your gentleness, kindness, intelligence and gentleness. You can do this, Attracting a boyfriend is not a problem.
However, I also want to remind you not to fall into the so-called love circle. You should also measure whether your boyfriend is worth your love. If he always vacillates between you and your first love and desecrates your feelings, I think such a man is not worth cherishing. Why cry and sad for him! I hope you can handle your feelings rationally and successfully overcome this hurdle.
