Post Date December, 03 2023
Many people believe that mothers are the source of happiness and happiness for children. However, increasing evidence suggests that fathers play a crucial role in the growth of children, and for daughters, the role of fathers is particularly important.
Meg, an American medical doctor and internationally renowned expert on adolescent issues with 20 years of experience in clinical treatment of children and counseling for adolescents? Mick discovered a common fact during his research and consultation process: the father is the most important person in a daughter's life, and the strong emotional bond between the father and the daughter can shape their daughter's life and future.
In 2006, Meg? Mick published the book 'Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters' (translated as' Father is a Mountain' in Chinese) and immediately made it to the best-selling lists in the United States. The book comprehensively elaborates on the importance of fathers for a daughter's life and reveals the top ten secrets to becoming a good father. Meg? Mick listed in the book the crucial influence of fathers on the growth of daughters, and his conclusions are thought-provoking and have caused many parents, especially fathers, around the world to feel anxious and uneasy about their roles and behaviors.
Meg? Mick pointed out that a caring and attentive father can have a significant impact on daughters of all ages.
The influence of fathers on little girls
A toddler who has a close relationship with her father is better at solving problems.
A 6-year-old girl living with her father scored higher on brain development tests.
A 6-year-old girl living with her father is better able to adapt to the pressure of learning.
Girls with father care and discipline perform better in their studies.
Girls who have a close relationship with their fathers are less anxious or withdrawn.
The influence of fathers on older girls
Girls who are favored by their fathers are more confident.
Girls who can feel their father's care and have a good relationship with their father are less likely to think of suicide, and the proportion of dissatisfaction with their own body, depression, lack of confidence, weight imbalance, or addiction to stimulants is also much smaller.
Daughters who are closely related to their fathers are more likely to complete their studies.
Father's care can most enhance a daughter's confidence.
Girls with fathers have a greater sense of security, confidence, and are more likely to be admitted to college, as well as less likely to drop out of college.
Girls who have a good relationship with their fathers have stronger expression and measurement abilities, as well as higher intelligence.
Girls with good fathers are unlikely to pretend and show off to gain the attention of the opposite sex.
Fathers make their daughters more competitive, eager for success, and more successful.
Girls who have a close relationship with their fathers will wait longer before attempting sex, and the proportion of underage pregnancies is also lower.
76% of teenage girls say that fathers can influence them in deciding whether to start having sex.
If the father lives at home, the likelihood of middle-class daughters getting pregnant without marriage will be significantly reduced.
Girls who live with their parents (rather than just their mothers) have fewer growth or development problems, and fewer learning disorders, emotional disorders, or conduct issues.
Girls who only live with their mothers are more unable to control impulses or delay gratification, and have weaker consciousness or sense of right and wrong.
If the father is involved in the child's daily life, the child will trust him more and seek emotional support from him.
If the father sets rules and expresses care, the child's academic performance will be better.
How a Good Father Shapes a Daughter's Life
A good father is not only beneficial for children's success, but also helps to enhance their self-confidence, cultivate their sense of right and wrong, obtain more emotional satisfaction, and reduce the occurrence of problematic behaviors. In fact, in Meg? Mick believes that the father's influence on his daughter is comprehensive.
A father can provide his daughter with the kind of support that only a father can provide, protect her from a poisoned society, and take her to a healthier place. Meg? Mick said, "Living in a society that is not very friendly and healthy towards women, there is only one thing that can prevent it from harming your daughter, and that person is the father
My daughter needs a hero in her heart, and she will choose her father as her hero. For her daughter, without a hero to look up to, she cannot survive. She needs a hero to guide her in dealing with a dangerous society. As a hero, a father can give his daughter two important things: leadership and perseverance.
A daughter is easy to identify with her mother, but her father is very mysterious to her. He taught her what love was in the beginning. The relationship between father and daughter in their early years is very important. The love that a father gives his daughter is the starting point of her love. There is other love in the father's life, but the daughter does not. Every man who enters her life will be compared by her to her father. Fathers can ensure that their daughters have correct and healthy sexual attitudes and guide them to make wise choices about sex.
Father can bring two most important assets to his daughter: pragmatism and tempering. Men and women view problems from different perspectives. Fathers usually bring pragmatism and solutions into the family. Women like to think about problems, while men like to solve them. The daughter's view of herself directly comes from her father, and her expectations, ambitions, and judgment of her own abilities all come from what the father believes, what the father says, and what he does.
A father can let his daughter know what a good man is like, and let her see a model of masculinity from his father. A wise father can know the happiness or suffering of his daughter's life, whether she will receive pleasant satisfaction or live in consuming anxiety, often only due to a wise or foolish decision. A good father wants to be a man he hopes his daughter can marry.
Daughters need their father's attention and time the most
Daughters need their father's companionship the most. Meg? Mick said that a good father needs to be closely connected with his daughter: to talk to her, spend time with her, and enjoy the time with her. Being with a father and daughter can make their daughter's life extremely complete and rich, and the daughter can provide endless rewards to the father.
But, Meg? Mick pointed out that a survey shows that 21% of children aged 12-15 say their biggest concern is not having enough time with their parents; 8% of fathers say their biggest concern is not having enough time with their children.
This is the biggest danger faced by daughters, and in fact, it is also the biggest danger faced by fathers. Because if they are not with their daughters, they lose the opportunity to influence and shape them. In the early years of a daughter, fathers should try their best to be with her, and any other form of compensation cannot make up for the missed time with her.
At the end of the book, Meg? Dr. Mick said:
One day, as she grows up, some things between you will be different. If you do your job well, she will choose another person who loves her, fights for her, and is close to her. But that person will never replace your place in her heart because you arrived there first. That will be the greatest praise for a good father
