Post Date December, 03 2023
Now that society is open, there are more couples cohabiting before marriage, and it is not uncommon for people to marry after their children. Although Fengzi's marriage can be considered a happy event, there are also many pressures involved, and it may even lead to divorce. So what are the pressures of getting married with a son?
It may mean that the relationship is not yet ready
The fact that a man and a woman who did not marry with a son enter the palace of marriage indicates that they are ready and willing to enter a new stage of life. But getting married with a son may mean it's an "unprepared" relationship. Originally, it took some time for two people to examine and adapt to each other from meeting and falling in love to being able to enter a marriage. But the early arrival of the child forced this period to be greatly shortened, and before fully understanding whether the other person was truly suitable, one had to hastily prepare for the wedding. This has led many unhappy couples who should have separated to venture into marriage.
Fengzi's Marriage Covers up the Problems of Emotions
There may have been issues with the relationship between a man and a woman, such as one wanting to get married while the other is not yet ready, or there may be psychological issues such as fear of getting married. And the arrival of the child keeps her/him from compromising. If they marry with such a mentality, then after marriage, they will feel uncomfortable all over and harm their spouse. There are also those who want to get married, using needles to pierce condoms, and finally getting married with their children. At this point, the spouse will find that this type of person starts to desperately avoid themselves, avoid family relationships, and lead the marriage to go their separate ways.
Emotional adjustment period collides with parenting period
In the first year after marriage, it is usually a period of emotional adjustment. Couples who get married with a son have to be busy with adjusting their relationship while also taking care of their children, which invisibly increases the pressure on the couple. Even if the relationship is ready and there are no major issues with the relationship, when the third pressure point of getting married is the overlap between the marriage adjustment period and the upbringing period, couples can easily get overwhelmed.
In the first year after marriage, I was extremely anxious
In the first year of marriage, couples come together from two different families, and there are many different aspects in their lives that need to be adjusted. This adjustment period requires a lot of energy from the couple to maintain. In the first year of marriage, there was a lot of arguing, "which is a description of the break-in period by many couples. Originally, their living habits faced significant adjustments when they arrived at a new family, and at this time, people would be more or less anxious and uneasy; If a young couple lives in a large family, they should not only blend in with their spouse, but also with their father-in-law, mother-in-law, uncles, and brothers. Some people during this period can be described as "exhausted".
Being anxious during pregnancy and childbirth
Do you think having children makes couples happy? Being a happy parent? That's right, of course these are for sure. But at the same time, pressure is also different and overlooked! Pregnancy, childbirth, and childcare are also difficult periods. Firstly, during this period, women's bodies undergo changes, sometimes experiencing ups and downs, and their mood is already prone to ups and downs. Expectations for their husbands can become higher than usual, causing them to feel pressure. Secondly, first-time parents are often in a hurry and are particularly prone to getting anxious and angry.
Imagine what kind of Mars would collide with Earth when the period of adjustment after marriage meets the period of child rearing? This is definitely a major test for couples. When diapers are flying all over the sky, children are crying, and you don't have time for sex, do you still think 'getting married with a child' is a beautiful conversation? Getting married with a son "is a combination of happiness and pressure. In modern society, with so much pressure, it's better to take it easy.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
