Man's first emotional stop: before marriage
Before marriage, men hope to have a beautiful, knowledgeable, courteous, and gentle woman with them.
Because of its beauty, it is closely related to the eye, both pleasing to the eye and pleasing to the eye; Because knowing books and etiquette, one must receive good education, self-restraint, grace, and charm, just like the crape myrtle in the TV drama "Huan Zhu Ge Ge". A man's face is shining, and his heart is also balanced; The reason why gentle women are favored by men full of masculinity is because the feminine beauty of women can create a harmony between men's overly masculine personalities, making them "complementary" and "balanced". No wonder our mentor Marx's greatest appreciation for the virtues of women is the word 'gentleness'. It can be seen that 'gentleness' is a secret weapon of women and a' killer weapon 'of men's emotions, making countless men the' captives' of women.
The Second Station of Men's Emotions: After Marriage
Married men not only rely on women but also obey them. Because having a loving wife at home makes men deeply feel the good feeling of having a home. As a result, home has become a "resting harbor" and "warm paradise" for men... In order to live up to their wives' expectations, men often become more angry, progressive, and promising in their careers.
With the passage of time, men's careers have become successful, and the 'honeymoon' between couples is no longer 'honeymoon'. The day and night interactions between each other, the novelty no longer novelty, the understanding has already been understood, thus entering the "fitting in period" of the marital relationship. Year after year has passed, and for men, there is a saying of the "seven year itch".
At this time, men, due to frequent socializing and increased temptation, are in an unusual state and performance when facing their desired woman, regardless of their purpose. Firstly, demonstrate lofty ideals rather than ordinary people, and win with outstanding professional skills; Secondly, he/she exhibits great talent or wealth, with knowledge of astronomy and geography, and knowledge of music, chess, calligraphy, and painting. He/she knows everything, as if he/she is knowledgeable about the past and the present, and can predict the future; Thirdly, the language is witty and full of humor. Whether it is the three teachings and nine streams, or the topic of ancient "chamber art", it can be integrated and talked about in detail. It is called sublime science and advocates civilization. Even when it comes to sensitive topics that women consider, they can shed their face and talk about them like pearls and pearls, with a resounding voice. It can be said that one is in an excellent state of "deep emotions lead to poetry, and deep meanings lead to rhyme".
The third stop of men's emotions: extramarital affairs
Indeed, speaking comes from speaking, and performance comes from expressing. Whenever a man faces extramarital emotions, there are only two situations.
First, as one female writer described, "A man is a dog. Based on different structures, it is no surprise that he goes out to take a few baths in his life. Anyway, he still wants to go home. He is loyal, and dogs are loyal." This passage confirms the secular evaluation of men: "Like the new, not tired of the old." Some people compare this man's feelings to "Shaobing (Baked cake in griddle)", which can be divided into several pieces, Falling in love with several women at the same time.
Secondly, men are purely lascivious. Faced with women of different styles, temperament, and appearance, they always express envy in different ways and expressions, with a strong desire to "eat from the bowl and look at the pot". To be honest, most men only stay in the stage of being "lascivious" and do not become "lecherous". They hold a "respectful" and "distant" attitude towards the women around them, and do not easily offend or possess them. For this kind of "all talk, no action" man, why does he like to appreciate "pretty girls"? He would aptly say, "Young with a mindset." It seems that the beauty of women adds another value. For most men, there is no "use value" but also "appreciation value"
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)