Post Date November, 16 2024
How to get along in love? In love, one must avoid the parasites of sex. Love is never attachment, and women must learn how to get along with each other in love in order to truly be loved.
People who disappear in love
The Halo Effect of the Parasitic in Love
You have become a parasite of love due to heartbreak, and dependent personality disorder, halo effect, pessimism, inferiority complex, sensitivity, and paranoia are all the causes of this phenomenon.
Each of us wants to achieve perfect love, obtain warmth, reliability, and a constant sense of security from intimate relationships. No one wants to be a parasite of love, so how can we prevent ourselves from becoming a parasite of intimate relationships?
1. Lengthen the time when love is strong.
In today's vibrant and colorful world, be a serious and objective observer, setting aside the external conditions of a romantic partner's brilliance, including identity, status, wealth, sense of humor, sweet words, and even some thoughtful small details; To understand such a person from the perspective of ideology and spirit, what kind of person is he? Only in this way can we recognize the true other person, and is this Ta the one who is suitable for us to have a less emotional conversation but worth the little care and effort you put into it. This method, I believe, is also the killer weapon to overcome the "halo effect" in romantic relationships.
2. Be true to yourself and honestly express your true thoughts.
Don't hide yourself just because someone doesn't like you. Over time, even if they are with you, they don't love the real you, they love the person you pretend to be; It's never you, so what valuable meaning does this love have besides taking what each person needs? So, if two people are truly in love, then I can take care of your feelings, but I cannot lose my original self just because I love you. Accepting each other's true selves and being honest with each other is a good way to start an intimate relationship within equality and truth, rather than hiding from each other. I remember Liu Ruoying once said, 'When you find a partner who doesn't have to worry about needing to tuck in in front of them, it proves that your' true love 'or' heavenly daughter 'has appeared.'. A true hit person has a common trait, which is being able to get along with others freely.
3. Having an independent life, work, hobbies, profession, those In addition to being an elegant lover, there are also places that are worth your joy or pride.
Some women are skilled in cooking, flower arrangement, coffee tasting, painting, carving, writing, music, and more These can be considered as hobbies, and with a little cultivation and dedication, these hobbies can be turned into bone ash level majors, achieving the best level in the industry, and turning them into money. Then use money to advance to higher levels of dreams and constantly improve yourself. This way, even if one day your sweetheart runs away with another girl, you won't be as miserable as you in the case, making yourself like a resentful woman or a "giant baby". Here, the profession we are talking about is related to our dreams, and this will be specifically discussed in future love and marriage programs on how to take responsibility for the dreams we choose. But this should be considered a skill in ancient times. However, in this era, the belief that 'women without talent are virtuous' is no longer respected.
4. Cherish your 'shadow personality'. What is a shadow personality?
In psychology, everyone has a shadowy personality trait, just like an introverted person who actually enjoys outgoing and lively colors deep down; And a person who is not good at words is filled with longing for social influencers who speak fluently and strategize in their hearts.
People with a 'shadow personality' can just make up for the other side of our shadow personality, and social relations psychologists believe that if we find such a shadow personality, our personality can be continuously learned through the principle of similarity and complementarity in our interactions, and we can successfully fill the gaps and deficiencies in our hearts, thereby growing into a perfect personality.
The most difficult thing for people to change is their innate inherited personality traits, but what may be even more difficult to change is our fragile human nature when facing desires, and the "shadow personality" can to some extent perfect and gradually perfect this part of us.
But many people, after encountering the "shadow personality" that suits them, always start unconsciously trying to change them to the way they want, based on their familiarity. If the other party always forces you to change, it indicates that they may not really love you. They love only the person they hold deep in their hearts, which is why in real life, they force the person in front of them to constantly change into the person they are, rather than loving the real you.
Just like before you meet someone good, everyone else is a passerby, a "teacher" who comes to teach her, or a "student" who needs to teach. Before you meet your own "Mr. Right", you strive to become an independent subject. Even if you are a person, you can freely and happily arrange all your life until you meet someone who is as independent and happy as you, and perfect your personality.
In this way, when 'you' and 'good' meet, they can become a simple and peaceful sentence that truly fits - 'Hello'.
Finally, please have a peaceful attitude towards falling in love, while paying attention to the beauty of inner cultivation. Adhere to a spirit of both inner and outer cultivation, and persist in the beauty. In this world, it is a unique and independent behavior.
High level love is a great love that can transcend desires and addictions. It is a practice of true giving, spiritual communication, and emotional flow of love.
No matter which one it is, if it is true - please cherish what you already have and work hard to do well in the present for the better self in the future.
The highest level of love
When you love someone, love has already entered your heart. Love is a form of heartache. Only heartache is the innermost feeling, tenderness can be disguised, romance can be created, beauty can be modified, and only heartache is the most primitive emotion.
The love we have been looking for is actually a feeling of being loved and being loved by others. If you are alone in a foreign land, have you ever thought about whether someone is concerned about you, worried about you, distressed about your journey, distressed about your helplessness, distressed about whether you have eaten on time Perhaps some people may feel that this longing is not romantic and beautiful enough, but in fact, love is all the heartache accumulated between two people.
When you shiver on a rainy night, someone is angry and drapes their clothes over you; In winter, that person painfully puts your little hand, which is red with cold, into their own palm; When you were walking on the street, the person suddenly crouched down and tied the open shoelace for you If you are so in love with someone at this moment, then I think this is love, and this is love that makes countless people puzzled.
Originally, love is a feeling of heartache and being loved.
If you love someone, you will have heartache for them, and if you have heartache for them, you will be willing to give for their happiness and have no regrets! Ask yourself, do you feel so sorry for someone now, and does someone feel so sorry for you. When you love someone, love is actually in your heart.
Why do people want love? People want love because they need someone who truly loves them. Because the highest state of love is - heartache.
