What if my second married husband and I had an affair with another woman the second day after we got our license

Reader's Letter:

Hi, Brother Shan, I've been divorced before, and my current husband is my second marriage. However, after obtaining the certificate, the next day I discovered that he was having an affair with a woman. Later, he promised not to, but this year it happened five or six times in a row. He is very sensitive and afraid that I will look at his mobile phone, which cannot be separated from his side. He says why I peep at my mobile phone, and even blames me for making trouble for nothing.

He used to be a person with mixed feelings. I mentioned divorce, but he didn't want it. "Every time I say a lot of things, he just says he knows, and then he goes back and giggles, but my heart gets cold, and I'm tired of it... I know he's still chatting, adding a lot of chat and dating groups... He now deletes chat records every day, but my heart gets cold... I want a divorce, I know that rivers and mountains are easy to change, nature is hard to change, and divorce, and I'm afraid of being told behind my back... What should I do?"?

reply:

Hello, thank you for your trust in Brother Shan. For those who have had a marriage history, it is important to be cautious when choosing another spouse and marriage, otherwise it will be difficult to achieve happiness. Second married people often experience the pain of marriage, and are sensitive and even suspicious. The most difficult thing is to establish a sense of mutual trust, and the most important thing in marriage is to obtain mutual trust. A marriage without a foundation of trust is definitely not sustainable.

Facts have proven that you have not been successful in this second marriage choice. The man started flirting with other women the second day after receiving your certificate. It can be seen that he has not taken a serious attitude towards marrying you at all. It seems that your marriage choice is somewhat blind. Moreover, after being discovered by you, although he promised verbally that he would not, in the following days, he still did not completely repent. Since you all know that he was not dedicated to his emotions before, why should you go to get a certificate with him? You are too irresponsible for yourself and others.

The most taboo in marriage is to be hungry and not choose what to eat, and also to be afraid of lacking mature thinking. What is the purpose of entering into marriage? Before marriage, it is necessary to think well. Marriage is not just about living together as a partner. Marriage must at least make two people suitable for each other and lead a relatively satisfactory and happy life. Otherwise, what to do with it. Therefore, marriage requires rational choices, especially second choice marriage, which should be more clearly understood.

Since you have already felt cold about this irresponsible man, why bother about what others think of you? Compared to the happiness of marriage, is it important to save face or to live a comfortable life? Therefore, don't let yourself choose against your heart just because you care about the eyes of others. Otherwise, even more painful and painful days are still ahead.