Post Date April, 15 2023
My husband and I have been married for 18 years. We opened a ceramic tile store together. Three years ago, we met a female client. From then on, they often chat late at night, eat together, and go shopping together. Every time I find out, he assures me that he will no longer be associated with him. "He even started beating me for this. I wanted to divorce him, but I couldn't bear to look at my two sons.". Late last night, I found out that my husband was chatting with that woman, but he didn't admit it and started hitting me. What should I do?
reply:
Obviously, the relationship between your husband and this female client has gone beyond the scope of normal work, and they are getting closer and closer. "His ability to hit you over this matter indicates that your position in his mind is no longer important, and he cares more about this female client.".
"If a man clearly knows that he made a mistake first, and instead of repenting, he also starts hitting others and using violence against you, then there is no need for such a man to cherish.". "His impulsive and reckless injury to his wife demonstrates his ingratitude and moral deficiency as a man.".
Since he has attacked you more than once, you must maintain your dignity, not easily compromise under his arrogance, and must make him pay the price for his irrational behavior. If you can't stand his unfeeling feelings, divorce is also your freedom. Of course, the prerequisite is that you should be fully prepared and have the capital to divorce, at least financially self-sufficient, able to live independently with your own abilities, and able to support your own children. If you do not have these conditions, then quickly let yourself have them. I'm afraid you can't count on this man. In short, plan ahead. On the issue of divorce, women must strengthen themselves and understand that they must not use children as an excuse to kidnap their marriage and happiness.
Letter from WeChat:
Hi, Brother Shan, I'm a married woman, but I cheated. I've been married for twelve years, but I've been working very hard. Having married a husband is irresponsible and not motivated, and I don't care about my children. For more than ten years, I've been raising my own children, so I'm very depressed. Then I cheated. What should I do now? thank you.
reply:
"No reason should be used as an excuse for cheating. No matter how bad the married partner you chose, but the other person was the result of your own choice. You can only accept your fate. If you are completely hopeless about this marriage, and there are other outlets in life, don't use cheating to express your dissatisfaction. Doing so may not retaliate against the other person, but ultimately can only hurt yourself.".
Dare to ask, are you cheating now, has your problem been solved? Are you feeling better now? Did you get it? I'm afraid things will only get worse. You don't yet know what to do.
What should I do? First of all, curb your cheating behavior, and don't let yourself degenerate and indulge in life, creating a negative example for your child. Secondly, face life positively and optimistically. If the man feels that he cannot count on him, then rely on himself. If he is full of positive energy, he must be able to create the life he wants through hard work. As for the man, if he wants him, he should be taken, and if he doesn't want him, let him go.
In fact, you can completely re choose your own life, why should you indulge your bottom line, and re choose a marriage and a man? Life is far from being so pessimistic, and it is ourselves who are pessimistic. As long as you don't abandon and don't give up, you will be able to overcome the current difficulties.
