What if my husband insists on a divorce after discovering that I have an affair with his good friend

Hello, I have been very upset lately and I don't know what to do.

After my husband discovered something about me and his good friend, he wanted to divorce me. To be honest, I really don't want to leave, after all, we have been in a relationship for 13 years. The children are all 11 years old and still a boy.

When I was chatting with his buddies on WeChat, he discovered us. Later, I admitted that we did have a relationship, and it was just an impulse. I regret it now and really don't know what to do?

But now I really don't want to get divorced. I don't want my child to lose their parents. Do you have any good ways to help me with this?

The problem is, he has been wanting to go through the procedures with me for the past few days, and I am really powerless. I have no way to go now. We usually eat at my mother's house, but now he doesn't come to eat, and my parents feel very uncomfortable. They go to deliver him meals every day.

Brother Shan's reply:

1. As the saying goes, a friend's wife should not be deceived. Any man who learns that his wife has an affair with his good friend will vomit blood in anger. Your husband is no exception. He hates his friends and you deeply. At this moment, he doesn't choose to divorce you, so why can he swallow this bad breath? As the saying goes, the hatred of killing a father, the hatred of taking a wife, and the betrayal of a wife are insurmountable obstacles in a man's heart.

2. At this point, it's not about whether you want to leave or not, but whether your husband is willing to choose to forgive you. What's the use of regretting again? Will your husband give you regret medicine? Some things, once you do them, you have to bear the corresponding cost. At this moment, apart from sincere apologies and self repentance, what other good ways can you win your husband's forgiveness?

3. Face reality straight, without experiencing this pain, you will not see yourself clearly, nor will you know how to cherish. Perhaps you will really lose this marriage, but perhaps it can give you a longer memory and remind yourself at any time that people who steal food will not come to a good end. Since your husband has already gone through the divorce procedures, besides choosing to take over, I'm afraid the next step is to figure out how to maximize your interests in the divorce agreement. I hope this lesson can deeply hurt you and help you live well for the decades to come.

WeChat Letter:

My husband and I are still living apart. I came back once a week, but I haven't come back in the past three weeks. They gave me 1500 yuan, and my child paid 600 yuan for tutoring. I am still taking medication and my health is not good. I have spent all this money, and I need it. He asked me where it went, and I kept my account for the past few days.

Four days ago, someone suddenly wanted to add me to WeChat. As soon as I saw it as a communication friend, I added it. After adding it, I didn't know anyone, and the content inside was definitely unfamiliar. There was something my husband loved to eat, and I also had a personal signature. Last year, my child and I went on vacation.

I have two WeChat accounts now, and I haven't mentioned it to him. Someone added me, but I didn't mention it. I asked the teacher to untie this knot for me, and he's holding the money. This year, the zodiac sign said I'm not sure if I'll be together. I don't want to watch me when I come back. I closed my eyes at night during the video. We are both snakes, and so are our children. Teacher Pang, I am almost depressed about this matter at home. Help me!

Brother Shan's reply:

1. I think nine out of ten, that unfamiliar number was added to you by your husband or his lover. He may have wanted to test and test you, or the mistress may have insisted on you. So, to prove your innocence and frankness, you might as well tell him about someone adding to you.

2. Your husband's unwillingness to talk to you can only indicate that he no longer cares about you, and your state cannot make him cheer up for you. So, you need to regulate your state, seek medical attention, pay attention to regulating your body, and let yourself have a good state, not only to attract him, but also to live for yourself.

3. Also, don't believe in any zodiac signs or destiny, believe in yourself and rely on yourself to change your destiny. If your husband already has a mistress, then you need to gather energy and arm yourself well. Men are unreliable animals, and they have to rely on themselves at any time.