Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband always suspects me of cheating. It's no use how I explain it. Don't explain, he'll take it as my default. Explain, it seems to make him feel like he's covering up again. What should I do? Heaven and earth have a conscience, and I have truly never done anything wrong to him!
Yesterday, he said he saw a post about his wife's infidelity. Later on, the husband in the post found someone to beat up his wife's lover and confessed everything. I just said, you can do the same thing, so that you can clear me up. He turned around and said he wanted to get him arrested
However, the cause of this incident is also my fault, so I am very self blaming. Every time it is his fault, I still have to let him down.
I work in the workplace and have three sisters. I also have a male colleague who is a few years younger than me. I call him "brother" and he calls me "sister". We get along quite well and are also quite happy. This guy, due to work reasons, often needs to contact me by phone. So, when there is something, he will send a message, such as a customer address, and I will also return it. Sometimes I chat with him on the phone after work. Sometimes in the morning, he would also send a message and I would reply. That's it, my husband thinks it's not good, so he told me not to contact this person again. Afterwards, we posted less, but my husband still doubted me and always felt that there was something between me and this little brother that we couldn't see in person. What should I do?
Reply:
Firstly, you should also reflect on yourself: is your relationship with male colleagues a bit too close? I think there seem to be some signs of going too far. And if you let your husband bully you, it may be because you have realized your shortcomings in handling colleague relationships.
Secondly, you need to reflect on whether there is still a crisis in your marriage, which makes your husband's heart less secure. If that's the case, only by improving the marital relationship from the perspective of marriage can one eliminate their suspicion towards you. Specifically, in daily life, you can communicate with him more about work and children's affairs. When working, send him more text messages. After work, go home in time to cook with him or go to a restaurant to eat together. During holidays, the two of them go on trips together, and so on.
If you handle your colleague relationships well, your marriage is harmonious, and your husband suspects you of cheating, then it may be that your husband's inner desire to cheat has been suppressed. Because I was afraid of cheating and felt scared of my own inner self, I projected this desire onto my wife you - you see, it's not me who wanted to cheat! She wants to cheat! In this way, he will feel some balance in his heart. You don't need to break through his psychological state - it's all a subconscious activity, and he won't admit it or pay attention to it. However, it is gratifying that men with this mentality are generally more loyal and not the type of playboy. ha-ha! Do you find it incredible that good men also have a subconscious desire to cheat? You should know that true human nature has never been pure and pure.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
