Post Date December, 03 2023
The two people are kind-hearted to each other, but the woman doesn't accept the man's date. The man says something outrageous. The woman blackmails the man's WeChat and phone. The two are superiors and subordinates. The woman is the leader, and is my boss. But it can be seen that the woman is still affectionate, but she doesn't accept the man's invitation. What should I do? Brother Shan.
[Brother Shan's reply] Hello, even between men and women of the same level, if they have a good feeling for each other, the woman will pretend to be reserved and wait for the boy to catch up. Moreover, the unequal relationship between the female leader and the male subordinate is very sensitive to each other. Therefore, the female will inevitably have all kinds of concerns. Although she may have the same heart with you, she will not easily submit. First, she will test your sincerity and patience; Second, maintain her position and image in front of you. So try not to say anything provocative, cooperate with her well, care about her and help her after work, show your kindness in front of her moderately, don't touch emotional topics during working hours, and cultivate feelings in personal time. I think that if you are sincere, you will be happy one day.
[Letter from readers]
Brother Shan, I asked for advice on behalf of a relative. I asked him to give me some advice. After a classmate introduced me, I met a colleague and talked for a few days. We found that they were similar in many places. We also wanted to develop further. It was a bit of mutual affection. Unfortunately, there was a boy on both sides, and we were a little hesitant about whether to continue. At this time, a relative told me to give up this relationship with his own experience of remarriage, saying that after all, they had no children in common, There is always selfishness. Boys who want to buy a house, marry and have children are inevitably estranged and will protect their children. Now I don't know what to do. Please consult Brother Shan, thank you!
[Brother Shan's reply] Hello, many times, the biggest obstacle in front of remarried men and women is not only children, but also their attitudes towards each other. If both parties take a child, especially a boy, this situation is indeed more complicated. To be frank, it is still our love that is not pure enough, or our original intention that we can not control our original intention. In fact, we should carefully examine what is the purpose of our choice of remarriage? Is it just to find a companion, or to find someone to help you raise children, or to rebuild a marriage that really makes you happy? Different starting points and purposes will definitely lead to different results. Marriage needs to be managed carefully, whether it is the first marriage or the second marriage. If you don't give your heart, if you don't have the initiative and wisdom to manage marriage, you will not be able to withstand the test of marriage after entering the marriage. It is easy to be helpless and disordered when dealing with various complex marriage problems, and it will be difficult to achieve success and happiness in the end.
