Post Date December, 02 2023
The dedication of anything is only reliable when willingly given, and only when it comes naturally is it true. Otherwise, any imposition or coercion with any private or unwillingness is immoral and ridiculous. Here, what I want to say to all those who hold such thoughts is: if you really love her and want her, then treat her well, treat her with sincerity, solve all her worries, dispel any worries in her heart, let her be willing, and give it to you without hesitation.
1. Testing sexual harmony after marriage
Of course, it must be pointed out that the harmony between men and women cannot be simply verified in the short term before marriage, as everyone has different physiological cycles, as well as constantly changing living environments and work pressures. Moreover, the most important thing is that disharmony can mostly be compensated for through sex. So, although this reason is not unreasonable, it is mostly just an excuse.
In real life, although there may seem to be many reasons for a period of failure, more than half of them are related to lack of harmony. So, on this level, I'm not too opposed to asking for premarital sex. Unfortunately, there are not many people in real life who can have such thoughts purely. They may value a pleasure in their own sexual behavior more. As for whether they can obtain happiness, they often do not consider it. Their so-called test of sexual harmony after marriage mostly comes from personal feelings.
2. Just for desire, not love at all
As for the last reason, I don't want to talk much about it because it doesn't even have the slightest technical content. Simply put, it's just playing with it as a bait to deceive you and him. As for the love that frequently springs out of these mouths, it can make people laugh their teeth out, not only infecting the environment, but also tarnishing the Holy Spirit. If you want to believe these nonsense, then naturally you can only take it for yourself.
3. Identify the other party
In modern society, although not a commendatory term, almost everyone hopes to marry themselves, and there are still many who have complex feelings. Based on this complex, to ensure that one can find one to go home, some people will disregard the repeated opposition and rejection of the woman, rack their brains and demand "trial and error".
If the other party is successful, then everyone will be happy and dispel their previous concerns; If you don't try, you can make plans again, or even avoid breaking up. In short, they are not allowed to take any risks by marrying someone who is not going home. The more open and less society, the more they want to take this "reassuring pill".
Our view on this is that perhaps the complex is understandable, and even worthy of pity. But it is extremely sad and shameless to disregard the feelings of the woman and engage in selfish and even despicable conspiracy activities with one's own narrowness.
4. Excited and impatient
I have always believed that those who have not experienced sexual activity are mostly not considered mature. Because they are unable to understand how to be caressed through some detailed feelings and communication. This kind of caressing is either done or not done, it is both indulgent and patient, gentle and savage.
In our view, if this is achieved, it is even more of a kind of love. It is this kind of love that makes them rational, becomes able to suppress Fang Gang's interest, becomes forced but able to wait, and becomes able to balance desire and responsibility. The later maturity is much more reliable, long-term, and ambitious than that obtained solely through sexual behavior.
For someone who hasn't been with you and hasn't figured it out yet or is unwilling to hand over their body to you, perhaps it can only be caressing, understanding, and patience.
5. Believing that only by giving it to him can one truly love him
To be honest, I still can't understand the popular misconception on the internet - give it to him if you love him. So I couldn't help but ask: Is it possible that someone who falls in love with someone must give their body to them, and this kind of giving must be before marriage, before he can give her any guarantee at all? I'm afraid this kind of statement is neither logical nor meaningful, right? There is no love without reason in the world, let alone giving without reason.
