Getting married is originally a happy thing, and it is the result of the couple's hard work in repairing it. However, a series of problems that occur after marriage always make the marriage red light up frequently. For men, they are most afraid of their wives after marriage. These questions often prick men's pain points. Not only that, but these topics are also their most taboo things. So, women must pay attention after marriage and never mention these issues.
1. The Role of Men in the Home
Nowadays, women's positioning for new good men is to take care of them, take care of their families, cook, wash clothes, tidy up the house, and earn money... Women feel proud of their men. In order to express one's sense of superiority, one often mentions in front of others how good his husband is at home, helping oneself tidy up the house, taking care of children, cooking, and so on. Although the wife is a form of commendation, for a man, he still has obvious gender characteristics subconsciously, and still believes that doing household chores undermines the dignity of the male "big husband" and undermines his sense of identity. Over time, a sense of resistance and annoyance develops in the heart. Don't say you don't want to do household chores anymore, it may also affect the relationship between husband and wife.
2. Don't speak ill of his mother-in-law in front of him
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been the most difficult to get along with. However, even if he loves you again, you must recognize one fact: no matter how bad the mother-in-law is, she is also the man's biological mother. So, never say anything wrong about your mother-in-law in front of your husband. If a wife often says' What's wrong with your mother... 'or' I'm much stronger than your mother 'in life, it can easily make her husband feel intimidated. Women must remember that their husband and their mother are always related by blood, which is a family relationship that cannot be abandoned, or that the relationship may be deeper than yours. You can show your gentleness and kindness as a wife, but never show more kindness than your mother.
3. Don't mock him for looking too much at beautiful women
We often use the term 'jealous' to describe women, which is indeed true. As a wife, one often becomes jealous and unbearable when their husband admires other women. Actually, this is unnecessary. A smart woman must know how to motivate her husband or boyfriend, and even if she can't bear to understand her husband's thoughts, she should take the initiative to point to a beautiful woman on the street and ask her boyfriend: is she beautiful? Don't ask, is she more beautiful than me? Remember! Because the effect of correction is better than feeling good about oneself.
4. Not comparing him with others
Believe me, this is a mistake that many women make. Always compare him with other men or praise them for being better than him. If you do this, your husband will definitely feel looked down upon and ridiculed. Generally speaking, men usually lack a sense of security towards the same sex. If you compare their strengths with other men, it may often make them uneasy. Therefore, try to avoid comparing your husband with other men. Even if it is necessary to make a comparison, it is best to talk about your husband's strengths and compare them with the shortcomings of other men. You should make your husband feel better than other men, not worse. Don't focus on your husband's shortcomings and let him lose face, confidence, and favoritism towards you.
5. Don't criticize his' romance '
Every man has his own opinion on romance. He has his romantic feelings and preferences, so as a wife, don't mock his "romantic views". Even if you think his romantic views are outdated or childish, you should respect and encourage his husband's romance. Otherwise, it will hurt his self-esteem, and from then on, his husband not only resists romance, but may also experience a sense of inferiority. By then, I'm afraid romance between you will no longer be possible.
A smart woman always knows how to avoid these topics, make her man love her more, and also make herself happier.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)