Post Date December, 02 2023
Recently, I chatted with a friend. She easily told the fact that her husband would work in remote areas in the second half of the year. For others, it is hard to accept this for a while, let alone they are newly married. However, from the perspective of insiders, this state between them is understandable, because their three-year love period before marriage has also been different. The reason why she can express her feelings easily and freely is that she has got used to the state between the two people and can balance the emotional relationship between them well. However, the vast majority of people living separately from each other will inevitably think about it. Some people even find a reason to think about it, which eventually leads to the breakdown of the relationship.
The true emotion will last forever, and space and distance are not important obstacles. The key to how to reduce the paranoia of separation is to correctly understand each other's emotions, master the skills of love and communication, and carefully maintain this emotion. Simple nonsense can only increase anxiety and sadness. Why not take a proactive way to eliminate your inner suspicion and guide your feelings to develop in the direction of health, happiness and harmony? We can try to solve the problem by considering the following aspects:
First, clearly understand the work and rest rules of both parties. This point cannot be ignored. After all, each person's work is not the same because they live in different places. Your rest time may be the other person's work time. Therefore, you can't blame the other party for not answering your phone on time, not taking the initiative to chat with you, and not sending friends frequently. It is wiser to write their own specific schedules, understand and negotiate with each other, do the right thing at the right time, and get used to and enjoy each other's love.
Second, keep close contact. The separation between two places is the hardest way to resist the pain of missing. Therefore, talking on the phone Congee, voice and video chat, and sending personal photos regularly are all important steps to promote feelings. Of course, when there is time and opportunity, both parties should try to get together, and do not deliberately consider the question of who is more active at this time. Many women have misconceptions and are unwilling to take the initiative to find a lover, thinking that it would be very humiliating, so they have to enjoy the unlimited initiative of their lover like a queen. When a woman misses her lover, she can run to see him, not only understand his situation, but also bring him warmth and emotion, and make your love transparent, action-oriented and concrete.
Pay attention to the change of tone and intonation in the process of chatting at ordinary times, play coquettish appropriately and say love loudly to make the voice and words fresh. When taking photos, you can also make fun of cute people, avoid stereotyped gestures and expressions, smile more and be sincere, and let the other party smile when they see the photos, and think of your emotions.
Third, learn to be independent and control emotions. It is normal for two people to have a sense of dependence when interacting, but from the essence of human existence, they are independent individuals from beginning to end, with their own thinking and behavior abilities. Lovers should not kidnap with emotion to restrict their development. What is more needed is tolerance, understanding and trust. Learn to be independent, focus on pursuing self-worth, show personal charm, be confident, and let the other party see that you are growing and maturing. This is also a kind of infectivity of love, not to say that love can make both parties become better people? The independent spirit and positive and open mind are also the embodiment of the ability of love.
The separation between the two places tests their endurance, trust and sense of responsibility. When you are tired of being together all day long, you can get more aesthetic feeling if you keep a distance. The premise is that you know how to maintain and sublimate your feelings, instead of thinking and worrying about yourself.
