Post Date December, 03 2023
I have recently encountered an affair that has really annoyed me.
To tell you the truth, I have always been very popular, not only with men but also with women. After many years of marriage, my wife has never mistrusted me. Whether my boyfriend invites me to play cards or my girlfriend invites me to dinner, she won't mind. My wife is so relieved of me that we naturally have a very pleasant childhood. My colleagues often joke with me that I am fully capable of "serving two women.". I don't know what to say about this, but I have already discovered that several female colleagues around me do show affection for me.
During an annual company training session, my relationship with my colleagues became more intimate and friendly. Female colleague Zhang bought me a shirt, Ji brought me ten masks, and Zhou bought me a pair of leather shoes. As the saying goes, there is no disrespect for coming or going. Besides, I'm not a cheapskate. I also bought gifts and gave them back one by one. Among them, Zhou was particularly affectionate and even forced a kiss on me in front of someone else while I was returning the gift. Other female colleagues also had "greedy eyes and greedy mouths," which scared me into hiding in the men's bathroom to avoid the embarrassment of women continuing to make love.
"I'm afraid that female colleagues' jokes may have true feelings, and if they don't make fun of them, they may become gossip, which not only affects our normal colleague relationships, but also can damage our relationship if the wind reaches my wife's ears.".
How should I handle my friendly relationships with female colleagues?
Mr. Chen:
"You have encountered a sexual encounter, and several female colleagues have expressed their closeness to you. You feel nervous and timid, which is completely understandable.". From your letter, I can see that you are a man with a conservative temperament, who is ashamed to accept a kiss given by a woman and adheres to minimum moral standards, which is commendable.
Strictly speaking, in ancient times, there was a saying that "men and women should not be close to each other". Today, there is a ritual that "it is important for men and women to communicate without evil." When faced with situations where female colleagues want to be close to you, regardless of their motivation, you should adopt a avoiding and distancing attitude. "Their active intimacy with you may also be a normal reaction to your popularity. Therefore, you should try to understand the actions of lesbians with kindness.".
However, I also want to remind you that excessive joking between men and women can easily lead to disputes, damage the image of the person involved, and endanger the relationship between husband and wife. You should also consider whether the fact that those female colleagues treat you so recklessly, in addition to your "popularity" factor, is related to your usual attitude towards them? Do they dare to be so intimate with other men? Why?
In today's developing society, encouraged by the media, individual men and women disregard moral opinion, ignore self-esteem and decency, and take pleasure in harassing the opposite sex around them. Some even have ulterior motives, destroying one's family and future. This is a "beautiful thing" to be vigilant about.
A righteous man can dispel evil spirits with good qi without making a big move in his voice and expression. According to your concept, attitude, and behavior, you will definitely not cause trouble in the relationship between men and women. Therefore, you don't have to be too nervous.
