Recently, the French child medicine expert Aledo Naoli has just released a book called "The Traitor", which has found a lot of reasons for men's "cheating", which has also caused a lot of controversy. In an interview with the media, Aledor explained the reason why men were "unfaithful" in his eyes.
The responsibility for a man's cheating lies with his mother
Reporter: You said in the book that men's cheating is not just "sexual behavior"?
Aldo: Of course. Both men and women are the same. "Sex" is not only the simple "sex" behavior we usually understand, but also often to find the short and beautiful state they felt in their mother's arms when they were just born.
Reporter: That sounds too new. You mean that men are unfaithful to women in order to regain their loyalty to "mother"?
Aldo: Yes. When a man chooses a woman, it proves that he can "find" the happiness he has obtained from his mother from her, but this state will not last long. Because in the soul of men, mother always occupies the first place; Other women can only rank second at most.
Reporter: According to you, should the fault of a man's cheating be attributed to his mother?
Allardo: The word "error" is a bit heavy. I think it can only be called "responsibility". In fact, mothers can completely let their sons get rid of their "shadow", but unfortunately, many mothers ignore these.
From the beginning of infancy, a mother should not stay with her son and "satisfy" them forever. We should learn to let children go and let them spend more time with their partners. Otherwise, when a boy grows into a man, every time he meets a strange woman, he will try to strengthen their subtle connection with their mother at first, and the "mother's shadow" will always exist.
Men's infidelity is only a temporary "sex"
Reporter: Women often think that men are animals that "think with their lower body". Does this mean that sexual desire has been corrupting the soul of men?
Aldo: No! This is the misunderstanding of many women about men. Indeed, I admit that men have stronger sexual desire, which can also be said to be one of the reasons why men cheat, but this does not mean that they do not care about love.
No matter how indulgent a man is, he will not choose his other half casually. When they choose women, they are subconsciously looking for women close to their mothers; Since then, problems in marriage have also been caused by some outstanding problems with the mother.
Reporter: After the "East Window Incident", the most frequently said by men to women is: "I just play with her, I still love you." Is this cheating?
Allardo: We can see that when a man chooses a woman and marries her, it means that the woman occupies an important position in the man's heart. Or, he chose her because she is very similar to his mother, which is even beyond the imagination of men.
Even so, men are still tired of the same life. Therefore, many men have the behavior of "thinking differently". This kind of cheating caused by "curiosity" is the most controversial topic between the sexes. In fact, for most men, after "impulse", "love" is still strong. He turns around and says "I love you" is not a lie.
Don't speak up after cheating
Reporter: We are also willing to believe that human nature is good, but there are always some exceptions. If you really marry a man who changes his mind, should you give up or continue?
Allardo: It depends on the husband and wife. This kind of thing cannot be generalized. I have only a few suggestions: First of all, a wife should not judge that her husband will cheat for life by cheating once;
Secondly, give each other a chance to talk calmly. However, the current phenomenon is that it is basically futile for men to take the initiative to admit their mistakes to their partners after cheating. So, no matter men or women, don't tell your partner after cheating!