1. Easy to overlook wives' requests for help
Many first-time fathers mistakenly believe that their wives can handle all this without any help. So when you find your wife very dependent on you, it will be surprising. As long as the wife knows you are by her side, she will have some support. If you feel excluded due to being unable to breastfeed, your wife may want to squeeze some milk into the bottle so that you can help breastfeed even in the middle of the night.
2. Afraid of harming the baby
Babies seem to be fragile little things, so many men dare not do anything except hold them. Those men with younger siblings are not like this. In fact, as long as the baby's head is not thrown, regular falls will not harm the baby. In order to overcome the fear of hurting the baby, you can watch your wife or midwife take care of the baby, then try to bathe the baby, help the wife take care of the baby, and let her rest.
3. Gradually understanding babies
If you take care of your baby with love every day - changing diapers, bathing, patting, talking to him, and so on - this kind of daily contact will make you feel closer and closer to him.
4. A feeling of neglect
It is a very simple fact that in the first few weeks of a baby's birth, every inch of the mother's time is taken up. Therefore, fathers often feel neglected and even develop jealousy. It is normal for a baby to become the new center of a wife's life because it replaces her husband's position. Tell your wife how you feel when it comes to generating resentment and causing relationships to deteriorate. You can also play a more positive role in taking care of babies. They happily look forward to the early birth of their child, but there is also a latent feeling of being left out in their hearts (just like the feeling of being abandoned after a child discovers that their mother is pregnant), which can manifest as rough treatment of their wife, or hoping to spend more time with their male friends at night, or flirting with other women, and so on.
5. Being treated as an outsider
Fathers tend to experience a feeling of being left out before and after their children are born in the hospital. He helped to safely send his wife to the hospital, where there were many people taking care of her. So, unless doctors and nurses allow him to enter the waiting room and delivery room, he really stays alone in the hospital. He sat in the waiting room flipping through a few outdated magazines, worried about whether his wife's childbirth was going smoothly.
Reminder from the editor: That's all for the psychological changes that men experience after becoming fathers. New dads can carefully observe whether they also have these psychological traits. If so, they must adhere to a healthy mentality and abandon negative ones.