Post Date December, 03 2023
For couples who have just married, it is not proper to separate their work from each other, but it is difficult to weigh. Here's how to get along with each other.
What about my husband working in other places
1. To maintain normal communication, it is better to have at least one telephone or online chat every day. However, due to work reasons, this communication should also pay attention to the time and try to choose the rest time, such as after lunch, before lunch break, after work in the afternoon or before the rest in the evening.
2. It is also a good communication "source" to ask husbands from other places to consult about family matters, regardless of size.
3. Let children communicate with their fathers more, and use them as the bridge and "informant" of the relationship between husband and wife. For example, when the children's school needs to seek the parents' opinions, it can shift this "responsibility" to the husband and give him a certain sense of responsibility.
4. Create conditions to go to the husband's work place to "reunite" more and give the husband and wife some private space. If conditions permit, you can take advantage of the winter and summer holidays, golden holidays, husband's birthday, couple's wedding anniversary and other opportunities to go to the husband's place for small gatherings, so that the feeling of new marriage can give him a lot of good memories.
5. Pay close attention to her husband's emotional and emotional problems. Once she finds something wrong with her husband, she can hint or send an email or text message to show her love.
6. Don't be afraid to write love letters. Couples living in two places can not only "produce beauty from distance", but also be the best excuse to fall in love. Even old husbands and wives, love letters can still play a role. It is the best way to renovate and repair each other's "love" from time to time.
7. Don't worry about his relationship with other opposite sex. You should also encourage or allow your husband to have one or two friends of the opposite sex who can chat with you. This kind of friend of the opposite sex is the lubricant for your marriage. As long as you handle it properly, you can learn to make friends with his friends of the opposite sex.
My husband changes jobs in other places. Will you follow me
My husband wants to leave the city where he works because of work needs. Do you want to go with him? This problem may haunt many people. Some people will choose to stay in the city they live in for various reasons, and live separately from their husband or in two cities. When I faced this problem, I resolutely chose to follow. I don't want to say which is the best choice here. I just say my experience for reference of some hesitant people. As for whether to move or not, I have to measure myself.
In the spring of 2011, my husband had to work in Shanghai for work reasons. This time is 2-3 years, which is determined according to the project progress. My son was three years old. As far as I am concerned, I am a northerner. I went to school in the northeast and worked in Beijing. At that time, I had lived in Beijing for 11 years. There are traces of my youth, traces of my hard work, and social circles that I hate to part with. As far as his son is concerned, he has already been in kindergarten and has a familiar collective environment, as well as many neighbors and friends who have played together since birth. These are all the reasons we can't give up. However, compared with the separation between the two places, I still resolutely decided to move to Shanghai. Not to mention the disadvantages of separation between husband and wife, I think the most critical factor that I follow is that I am not willing to let my father's role be lost in the most critical period of my son's growth. I also don't want my husband to regret that he has missed many good things of his son's growth.
Since we have chosen to move to a new city, it is necessary to face the various problems that follow, and there is no complaint. Sometimes, as a life experience, you may face it more calmly. I basically have no friends in Shanghai, and suddenly I am not used to it. But the impact on my son is the bigger problem I have to face. After the excitement of moving, my son began to feel the negative impact of moving. Because of the quota, we did not enter the kindergarten in the community, but only temporarily entered the kindergarten 3 kilometers away. My son is extroverted, and going to the new kindergarten has little impact on him. He quickly adapted. The uncle of the shuttle bus likes his son very much. He makes a paper pistol and a paper crane for him when he picks up his son every day. So waiting for the shuttle bus every day became the most joyful moment for my son.
The kindergarten problem has been solved, but the most troublesome problem has come. In addition to attending kindergarten, his son also needs to socialize at home. The son who is used to having a large group of children in Beijing and can find a playmate at any time suddenly hangs up the bill. Children around 3 years old have begun to have their own sense of small circle. It is often the son who takes the initiative to find other children to play with. Others will tell their children not to play with him. Being rejected much more, his son began to become irritable, lose his temper easily and cry loudly. I realized that this was because my son could not be recognized by others. In turn, he could only vent this anxiety on his closest mother. So helping my son expand his circle has become my primary task.
