When it comes to depression, people often think of women. In fact, this mental illness can also target men, especially middle-aged men, because men of this age group are often under the heavy pressure of life and career. Therefore, today, let's learn about relevant health knowledge.
Anxiety, irritability, poor sleep
Midlife crisis does exist
Mr. Liu, 45, is a middle level cadre in a company. His son is taking the middle school entrance exam this year. Not long ago, the company suddenly decided to transfer him to work in a branch in a foreign country. After hearing this news, Mr. Liu suddenly felt upset and suffered from insomnia for several days. Mr. Liu said, "Now that my parents are old and not in good health, my child is in puberty, and my family desperately needs me.". Although working in a branch company can be helpful for career development, I feel that the burden on me will become heavier and heavier, so I feel a bit anxious.
It is understood that the United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization (UNESCO) once pointed out in a report that according to a large amount of statistical data from various countries around the world, men between the ages of 40 and 45 will undergo significant physiological changes. Due to physiological and psychological changes, middle-aged men can experience significant changes in their work, physical fitness, sexual abilities, thinking, emotions, and interpersonal relationships.
Psychologists say that in middle age, people not only have to bear the heavy burden of work, but also bear the burden of supporting the elderly and raising and educating their children. Middle-aged men, like women, are a group with a heavier psychological load. Whether it is a sub health condition or a mental illness, it is a middle-aged crisis, mainly related to physiological and psychological transitions in middle age.
Learn to seek help
Self stress reduction is important
Psychologists have pointed out that many middle-aged men experience a state of mental sub health. The World Health Organization defines mental sub health as a health problem caused by psychological characteristics (such as personality, preferences, emotions, intelligence, and affordability) determined by genetic and congenital conditions under the influence of the environment, which is an intermediate state between mental health and mental illness. There are signals before mental sub health occurs, which can lead to mental depression and inability to communicate in daily life; Poor sleep, difficulty falling asleep, easy to daydream; Poor mood, impatience, and bad temper; Prone to nervousness and anxiety; Physical discomfort, confusion, dizziness, and headache.
Experts remind that overcoming these difficulties requires learning to self decompress and adjust the mode of coping with stress. "When men reach middle age, they lose the energy they had when they were young, which creates a contradiction with their enduring ideals of struggle. Therefore, in daily life, it is necessary to rationally arrange their habits and adjust their psychological needs.". For example, when encountering problems, focus more on positive factors, actively seek help for unfinished tasks, prioritize the tasks at hand, and so on. Cultivating personal hobbies and interests in life can inadvertently release pressure and ease one's mood. While paying attention to physical exercise, pay more attention to your mental health and develop the habit of conducting psychological analysis. Consider making friends with a psychologist so that you can often get their help. In addition, proper weight loss, regular exercise, and reduced tobacco and alcohol intake are healthy lifestyle habits that also help middle-aged people maintain a youthful state and avoid mental sub health symptoms.
Experts particularly remind that if you can't solve the problem yourself, don't hold on. If necessary, you can seek help from a psychologist.
Give "unbearable" fathers more love
Father's Day has passed, how many people still pay attention to fathers and many men?
Before Father's Day this year, many people in WeChat's circle of friends were reprinting the article "Father is the Worst Fighter in the World". The text reads: "Most of our fathers are trapped in life, their faces are pale, and they have some minor illnesses. Some of them are not happy with their emotions, and they show some obscenity when they are young. However, they love their children, like foolish and brave worker ants, and do not leave behind any work. I carefully hide my unbearable struggle and create conditions for him not to consider embarrassing issues. I have to work hard and shave my beard every day." Having to be clean and dressed in neat clothes made him feel that his father was actually very chic and romantic. He was unwilling to be defeated by others and had a clear mind. I don't want my children to see my unbearable condition. "I am already a father."
This reminds me of the college entrance examination that has just ended. The most impressive thing is not the college entrance exam students but the parents. The most intriguing scene is that after each class, the students walk out of the examination room, and the parents standing on the roadside suddenly flock to their children. They are eager to ask how the exam is going, but they can only greet them with a brilliant smile and enthusiastic body language. Whether it's a dignified father or a chattering mother, the expression on their faces at that moment can be described as "flattering", which is not excessive.
"Unbearable" and "flattering", in front of children, our father is actually a "weak person" more often. This is also the regular role that most men play in family relationships. Working hard outside, sweating, bleeding, and crying to support a family; "Being a bull and a horse at home" always ranks third. A few days ago, a foreign institution once conducted an experiment on domestic violence: In public places, when a man is hitting a woman, someone immediately accuses him and calls the police. Subsequently, the roles were changed, and the reaction of passersby was very different when the woman hit the man. No one helped the man, but more people took the matter as a pleasure to watch. Although this experiment has a bit of a playful component, it is a more realistic reflection of the position of men in sexual relationships. According to data, on Father's Day every year, the feedback from the market is "slightly bleak" and "not as hot as Mother's Day.". Experts analyze that the traditional "strict father and loving mother" culture makes it difficult for children and fathers to express their love.
Men tend to be reluctant to speak out about their stress, which means that men will have more and more to bear. In this cycle, men's mental health must be affected.