"When losing his beloved, many girls first reacted with excessive sadness, even losing their sanity, and taking extreme actions. However, the more extreme the method, the more disgusted the other party is, the more extreme the method of many girls becomes. Finally, if he fails to recover, he also causes his own heartache.".
So how can we recover the beloved one? In short, two words - reason, but what is reason and how to be rational are what many girls need to think about.
The psychological interpretation of reason is as follows: In the process of 'pure' perceptual psychological activity, purposeful discussion and analysis can be conducted according to the depth of thinking, which is an active psychological activity. Of course, there will also be corresponding forms of passive psychological activity, in which the perceived information can be rapidly transformed through the internal thinking system. Therefore, It is a manifestation of higher forms of psychological activity.
Purposeful discussion and analysis is a rational response and reflection, so when he leaves, what you need to do is not cry, not make noise, not to mention hang yourself, but to calm yourself down and think about why he left? What's going on between you two? Is he still the object you need to rely on? Go back to your own heart and explore the answer to your own heart. The most important thing is the process of exploring. It will allow you to deeply understand your needs and demands. When a person has this experience, they will not make impulsive actions. If you have this experience, they will not cry, make trouble, and hang up after they leave, making them increasingly dislike you. On the contrary, in the process of your thinking, you will find many past problems, Taking these questions to discuss with him will make him look at you in a new light, and naturally, he will also think in his heart whether he wants to reunite with you.
As mentioned in the previous definition, rationality is an active psychological activity, as well as an emotional activity. In the event of conflicts, whoever can maintain more rationality can gain the initiative, because thinking activities dominate our words and behaviors. When you are faced with his departure, you can maintain the proper rationality, and you have more or less control over the future direction of your relationship, Isn't this what you want?
On the road to saving your ex boyfriend, rationality is really very important, but it doesn't mean you can do it if you have to do it. A person needs to have a rational state of mind, and it also requires regular practice. If you usually lack this kind of practice, you can take out a small notebook and record a few questions on it: What's wrong with our relationship? What are the solutions? What does he need? What do I need? Questions like this, and then take the time to think, the process of thinking, is to help you practice the process of reason.
Girls, if you are brokenhearted, don't panic, because rational thinking can help you better retrieve the beloved one.