If you ask a woman, who makes you unhappy? Most women will answer: it's a man! However, women who often say such things, even if they leave men, will not be happy.
The unhappiness of women stems from the habit of enjoying themselves
Most women attribute their unhappiness to the unfairness of their fate and the "depravity" of men. It was a man who shattered my love dream, fate took away my happiness, along with my only once youth and beauty! "Such complaints kept coming and going, as if women were synonymous with misfortune, and women's happiness became a gift from men and a joke of fate.
However, almost every woman has a love dream: poetic love before and after flowers, reliance outside dreams in dreams, sweetness of little birds clinging to people, and pride held in the palm of their hands; That's not only pre marital romance, but also post marital habits; That is not only the beauty of love, but also the radiance of time; Moreover, after experiencing the influence of "money worship", women have added a practical need beyond their unique romance: sweet words are good, but the best thing is the affordability of cars and western-style houses; Of course, the most dazzling thing is the rise and permanence of bank deposits. Whether women love to listen or not, in fact, this is the love dream of many women - excessive love for themselves, coupled with the lubrication of money and material; The habit of sitting and enjoying oneself, coupled with the control and possession of men.
Women's unhappiness stems from their excessive pursuit of 'perfection'
It cannot be said that these women's love dreams are all wrong - without the romantic feelings of women, how superficial a man who is too rational should be; If there were no material degradation of women, how could a man who takes struggle as his own responsibility reflect his own glory? However, the good thing about all good things is that they are measured. Once they exceed their proper standards, even the best character can suffocate people; No matter how strong the love is, it will make people feel unlucky. Perhaps this is the conflict in gender relations, also the root of a woman's misfortune and the cause of her grievances.
So, we saw the tragedy of the injured woman, her weakness becoming a meal for men, her sadness becoming a green space for men's leisure and an unbreakable gap. In life, most women who are injured are representatives of the "perfect" generation. Due to her delicacy, she is both attractive and annoying to men; Due to her melancholy, she felt both pity and regret towards men. As a result, she had to lament and pity herself in a vicious cycle of being needed and rejected, while indulging in her own perfection and cursing men for their "boredom".
Women's unhappiness stems from handing themselves over to men
Women curse men and pity themselves. On the surface, she seems to have found balance, but in fact, she is suffering from inner imbalance: because she loves herself too much, her gaze cannot reach far; Because she was too eager for men, she became her own cage and shackles. She is thus demanding men in the "perfection" of "high standards and strict requirements"; Little did she know that the demands on others finally led to her nervousness and exhaustion towards herself, and psychological depression followed one after another, taking away her love for life and preventing her pursuit of happiness.
Perhaps it is unfair for women not to let them play and pester anymore; Alternatively, making women learn that men's rationality is demanding of women; But at least from the perspective of self happiness, if you are always alive and not happy, where is your intelligence? Furthermore, if you always attribute your misfortunes to others, it will also waste your reputation as a person. When you think about it carefully, it's the same reason. If you always attribute misfortune to a man, you are handing yourself over to him; If you always attribute misfortune to fate, you are handing yourself over to fate; It's better to turn it upside down and attribute your misfortune to yourself. You are giving yourself over, and you have taken control of your own destiny and strived for the possibility of happiness.
From this conclusion, who makes women unhappy? It's the woman herself; Who can make a woman live and happy is also the woman herself. So, give yourself up, woman. Once you become your own master, you will understand that happiness is not an unattainable dream, it is your feelings at this moment; Happiness is not luxury in the eyes of others, it is an enjoyment from the bottom of your heart. Enjoying happiness, what women need is not sympathy and favor from men; It only requires you to give yourself two things - cherish and appreciate.