Unexpectedly found that my husband and his first love frequently chat on WeChat, which made me heartache

I am 42 years old this year. We have been married for 18 years. We have been living together for a long time. My husband is really honest. In recent years, my husband has been doing business in foreign countries. I took care of my children at home. At the beginning, I felt that my husband was playing whoring outside. I didn't catch him on the spot. He didn't admit it, but he was very fierce. We were all supported by him.

Recently, I accidentally saw that he and his first girlfriend had been chatting on WeChat for a year. They talked every day and late at night. His female classmates have jobs, may be talented and not beautiful. Because my husband has been so angry with me recently that he still thinks things are different from things. I feel very uncomfortable. He sometimes asks me to learn something to enrich my life.

I saw him talking with his girlfriend that day, and I began to fight with him for several days. I feel heartache. Our child has graduated from the sixth grade. I don't know whether to go to find her husband? I'm 42 years old now. I don't know anything to learn. Please help me. My husband said all day that he was tired and tired.

reply:

There is a saying that companionship is the longest confession. The most loving couple, if they get together less and leave more, and lack the least accompanying, their feelings will gradually fade, leading to various problems in their marriage.

It is not clear whether you are talking about your husband doing business in a foreign country or in a foreign country. In short, there may be a state of separation between two places. This state must be adjusted. Try to reunite the husband and wife as much as possible. Otherwise, marriage is meaningless. Don't talk about living and making money. I hate this kind of talk. It depends on people.

From your description, you and your children are totally dependent on your husband to support them. That means you don't need to work every day and are a full-time wife. You don't have your own source of income, your own job, and your own pursuit. No wonder your husband is bored and angry with you. Your whole family's expenses are all on him. He is actually under pressure. If you can't share anything for him, and have no resonance in spirit, he can't feel your existence except to ask for money from him every day. He will certainly be unhappy when watching you do nothing every day, and he will certainly find the woman he likes to chat and talk to.

Your husband has reminded you to enrich yourself, which means that he can't tolerate your current ease. You should learn to communicate with your husband, be good at thinking about a man's mind, understand his preferences, and find something that intersects with him. It is better to reach a tacit understanding of the soul. Otherwise, how can he care about you and respect you. 42-year-old is not old, but also just middle-aged. According to your interests, you can choose to enroll in any class, even if you want to be a WeChat merchant to sell goods online. Don't neglect yourself, don't be out of touch with this society, learn to learn, and have your own interpersonal circle. Otherwise, if you go on like this, you will really enter the middle age crisis. Not only does your husband hate you, but you will eventually be ruthlessly eliminated by this society.