Post Date December, 03 2023
Misunderstanding 1: One failure leads to another failure.
Mikhail Ritwak, a famous expert on sexual issues, said: "Personally, I believe that those who believe in their impotence are like those 'sexual weight lifters' who fail in weight lifting. In a sense, they devote all their energy to thinking about their lack of strength. The phrase' I am a man of impotence 'has been deeply imprinted in his mind, and therefore, he does not have the courage to actively speak to a girl he likes. This is also why he does not have the courage to invite her to live in his own home." Or suggest reasons for being romantic and gentle with yourself. If you do have the above problems, then your first priority is to stop being dissatisfied with yourself. "I promise you will soon be able to restore the dignity of men."
There is a case where a Russian man has not had sex with his wife for several years. Therefore, his wife became a "proven" sexual apathy, and he also called himself sexually incompetent. One day, he fell in love with another woman, and then he divorced his wife. Shortly after the divorce, the man's sexual desire reached its climax.
His new girlfriend (apparently a woman who enjoys sex) even joked with him to "take it easy" and not overindulge. From this case, it can be seen that this Russian man clearly underestimated his sexual abilities before divorce. Perhaps if he had stronger confidence in himself, his marriage would not have broken down.
Myth 2: You can only have sex twice a week at most.
The above data were published by a research center that studies population issues, located at Moscow State University. It is said that this data was obtained after processing the poll results, so you cannot simply say that the results are incorrect. However, the survey is only of general significance, and everyone's physical condition is different. We can only use this "standard" as a reference, and do not be completely blindsided by it.
Misunderstanding 3: Abstinence is beneficial to physical and mental health.
Some people often cite some ancient Chinese sayings. These ancient people said that if men abstained from sex, they would live longer. This is actually a plausible rather than a valid view. Scientists have found that having sex at least twice a week is essential for healthy people. A harmonious sexual life is the best way to prevent diseases such as prostatitis. The results of a recent study on this topic suggest that those who have regular sex lives have longer lifespans than those who occasionally have sex.
British researchers have also found that housewives derive more pleasure from their sexual lives than professional women who work outside the home. Although they spend 10-15 hours doing housework every day, they have sex every day. Women who work hard and often work overtime have sex less than once a week.
Myth 4: When making love, men should actively ignite a woman's desire.
We have always held the view that men cannot become obstacles to harmonious sexual life, and it is natural for men to take the initiative in sexual life. In fact, women can also take the initiative and have the right to derive pleasure from sexual life. It's just that many women have been forced by certain dogmas and prohibitions imposed on them by their parents since childhood, causing them to have a sense of fear of sex. They rarely completely relax and take the initiative in their sexual life, let alone take the initiative. Let's take the experience of Marilyn Monroe as an example to illustrate this issue.
The poor child's mother had been suffering from mental illness since childhood, and his father disappeared without a word. When she was only 8 years old, she was brutally raped by her stepfather. Obviously, in Monroe's mind, normal sexual life is a nightmare. Women who have experienced the same unfortunate experiences should receive treatment from a doctor or psychiatrist. Her husband alone cannot cure her. We would like to take this opportunity to briefly mention another commonly accepted misconception. They say that love can cure any sexual function disease. We agree that love is a beautiful emotion. However, it is best to seek professional medical treatment for the shadows that arise from your childhood.
Myth 5: After 60, don't have sex anymore.
A public opinion survey shows that 70% of married female retirees in Moscow continue to enjoy some degree of sexual life. In addition, a third of women who have passed their golden age admit that they all have sexual partners. At the same time, it is commonly believed that people in their 70s will lack sexual desire. This situation does exist, but the key to the problem is not the age itself, but the general decline in physical function.
As a person ages, their hormone levels naturally decrease. On the other hand, the elderly do not need to worry about issues related to fertility. In this way, all released hormones will be transferred to the sexual aspect. Therefore, the leisure time after retirement is also the most suitable stage for a neutral life in a person's life, for the following reasons: At this time, the children have all grown up; You don't have to worry about pregnancy anymore; And you don't have to devote all your precious time to work. In short, after age 60, you can enjoy the beauty of sexual life.
American sexologist Claire Bailey believes that women cannot have the problem of "excessive" sexual life. Having regular sex can not only make your lower abdomen smoother, but also consume excess fat from your hips. It can also make your posture more beautiful and attractive. If you can overcome many misunderstandings and prejudices about sexual life in the past, you can even enjoy the fun of sexual life in your later years.
Myth 6: When women are young, they are sexually apathetic and become more attractive in their later years.
According to medical statistics, 30% of women suffer from sexual apathy. One can even take comfort from these surprising data: this phenomenon should be regarded as a standard, as the number of female sexual apathy is very high, reaching one third. Some people may also take Marilyn Monroe as an example to illustrate that being sexy doesn't necessarily mean being sexually active. The famous movie star looks very sexy and charming, but it's just a superficial phenomenon.
At a deeper level, she is "slightly" sexually apathetic. As people know, women have many other good qualities besides sex. For example, studying metaphysics or reading Dostoevsky's novels. As for sex, women are not without it. What they need more is a feeling of love.
In fact, a woman who is dissatisfied with her sexual life is a hysterical animal that can act like a madman and sometimes cry bitterly for no reason. Moreover, she apparently takes pleasure in provoking trouble, sometimes shouting and screaming about trivial matters, which makes people uneasy. Undoubtedly, such a woman has taken the place of sexual life. Mikhail Litwak, a psychotherapist and author of the best-selling book "The Principles of Sperm," said, "There are no women with sexual apathy in the world. They are actually patients who use the heat generated in their hearts to create ice cubes. Sometimes, women do have sexual apathy, which is actually a signal of her severe mental illness. Women who suffer from this disease have no passion for sex. She has no passion for life, let alone sex."
