Post Date December, 03 2023
How to save a man's heart? Although a man's heart is not a needle in the sea, it is not easy for a woman to see through. To save a man's heart, one must first understand his emotional psychology, so that one can apply the method to the blade.
The emotional growth stage of a man
At the beginning of the intimate relationship between two people, she loves your innocence and purity. You like his love and care like a father. Perhaps he loves your strength and ability, and you like him to be as simple and kind as a child. However, the intimacy of each of us will not remain the same, and your role will change because everyone will grow.
The four stages of a man's emotional psychological growth:
Stage 1: He feels that he can show his vulnerability in front of a woman, "Mom values him so much, loves him, and he is her baby.".
Stage 2: He feels strong and can fulfill all his mother's wishes, and can almost replace his father.
Stage 3: The comfort and value he received from his mother is not enough, and he wants to gain a sense of value in a broader world.
Stage 4: He will integrate the outside world and family, and he can obtain the dignity he wants from women.
Men at different stages may have different problems in their relationships:
A man who has problems in the first stage will receive a lot of love and care from women in love. At first, he will be very gentle. But when he grows up, he wants to prove his worth and be free. "But if his wife has too many maternal instincts, he will be unable to fulfill his own needs, and the relationship will lose its original vitality.".
Men who have problems in the second stage often feel very powerful, but in the outside world, they are frustrated everywhere, and they are very painful. He needs someone stronger than him to teach him to face the outside world. However, if the wife is too young to provide him with strong support, and he has no spiritual support, this relationship cannot develop.
A man who has a problem in the third stage may very much want to be with a man, which may be related to his lack of childhood, especially those who have a relatively troubled relationship with their mother since childhood. Their inner desire is for someone to teach them how to face the outside world. In other words, although he has power, he does not know how to present it in his own family. He is an excellent boy, but not a male master who can effectively manage his family. How do women make adjustments.
Women need to make adjustments based on their partner's psychological state. Facing men at different stages, they also have their own life themes to grow.
For example, in the face of a man in the first stage, it is very important for you to step out of your mother's identity, learn to give freedom and affirmation to the other person, and sometimes learn to appropriately attach to the other person, making him feel valued and needed. In addition, we must get along equally, not treat each other as a child, but as a big sister and mother. We must get along equally and learn to show weakness occasionally.
For a man in the second stage, what he needs is a woman who can tolerate his mistakes, have a strong and stable heart, and be able to comfort and tolerate, provide strong support and enlightenment when he encounters setbacks and blows from the outside world. If you have been addicted to being a child, overly dependent, seeking his advice on everything, and completely unable to live independently, then what awaits you is the destruction of relationships, and no one can play only one role in their lifetime.
As a man in the third stage, what you need to do is not only have this man and family, but also have your own independent world. If you close yourself and don't grow up, you will lose the opportunity to wield your sword together with him. The main reason couples break up is that they can no longer dance the same song, and they are in different rhythms. One person has entered the next stage, while the other person is still staying yesterday, still repeating the previous stage! As a result, there are more and more uncoordinated, disagreed, incomprehensible, quarrelled, and cold wars, and finally there is no choice but to change dance partners.
