Post Date December, 03 2023
Before taking action, you must understand your position. "We're trying to keep our boyfriend's heart, not argue about who's right and who's wrong.". After a breakup, a boyfriend may not care who has mastered the truth at all, or he may just want to stay away from you for a moment, and then talk about reason. Using a strong argument tone to make the other party logically realize that "he is wrong, cherish me" is completely undesirable. So what are the ways to save your ex boyfriend? What should we do to save our boyfriend's heart? The following are three major ways for the editor to save his boyfriend after breaking up. I hope they can be helpful to everyone.
Stop pestering and fighting, and plan calmly
During the period when we just broke up, we should never make phone calls every day or two to "harass", plead, or admit our mistakes. There are two reasons: 1. Your current mood is very impetuous with each other, and you can easily appear emotionally out of control in communication. Your boyfriend is also in a state of deliberately avoiding you, and even tired of your frequent harassment actions. After a while, if the other party has figured it out, there will still be a chance of reconciliation. If they act too aggressively now, they will become self-defeating and create new obstacles for future reconciliation. In the early stages of a breakup, it is important to control your emotions and what to do. Even if the other party has a strong attitude towards breaking up, you can first say to the other party: Let's calm down for a while before making a decision. In this way, we can first bypass the breakup bomb, give each other some space and time to settle their emotions, and also buy time and opportunities for ourselves to save our boyfriend.
2. Put down the phone and write an email "Express Your Heart"
Sometimes, written words make it easier for the other person to hear the voice of their heart. If you had pulled his collar and angrily asked "why" while crying and begging him to "don't leave" when the other party proposed to break up, and you sent such an email again, the other party might not even read it. You should know that the emotional cards you play may have been known by him for a long time, just like the predictable stress response of taking a needle into a baby's arm. Therefore, it is necessary to calmly and lightly steer clear of the problem, so that if we try to retain the other party, we will not have a strong rejection and avoidance mentality.
This email can be used to describe the details of your time with him and the many trivial things in life, but don't express your negative emotions. In the letter, you can recall and share some of your past experiences. Remember to severely criticize yourself and let him know that you really knew your mistake; Dig out the bright spots on the other person and give him some small pride.
However, at the end of the letter, there should be no expressions of soliciting a response or strongly demanding an attitude from the other party. This is a long battle line. Do not aspire to immediate results, but subtly influence your boyfriend. The number of emails should not be one per day. You can choose between two or three days or two per week to give each other some space and distance; It is not appropriate to be too little, but to let the other party know the infatuation of "my heart is eternal". If you don't know how to write better, you can take a look at the article you shared earlier to give you more ideas for writing a letter to save your boyfriend.
Actively participate in parties and activities with him, and demonstrate a sunny and cheerful spirit
The coldest emotion in the world is apathy, while the most invisible thing is indifference. When attending a party with him, you must not cry because of a broken relationship. Even if you feel depressed and sad again, you must pretend to be sunny and positive. Because girls who love to laugh are the most adorable, compared to girls with dusty faces, such positive energy can always infect others and the one you hold onto. During the period, you can give him some small help, such as helping with the delivery of items, actively sharing food, etc., but not too often. As long as you let him understand that you still have him in your heart and have experienced these pains, you can still be strong and optimistic. Men prefer a girl who is fresh and natural, such as basking in the sun, rather than a girl who feels overwhelmed and willing to degenerate after experiencing a blow. This will only make him understand that leaving you early is the more correct choice.
The above are three major ways to save a boyfriend. Everyone has seen that in the future, if there is such a situation, don't use tons of tears when retaining a boyfriend. When a man chooses to break up, tears are no longer something that can move him, but rather a burden on his heart. Do not persist in fighting and trying to use a hard attitude to let the other party know their mistakes. This will only make the path of retention narrower and narrower, even unable to return to heaven; Be optimistic, take it by surprise, and learn to make a soft landing. Remember: Drops of water can pierce stones, and four ounces can lift a thousand pounds. All positive energy actions and smiles must be the most effective way to deal with setbacks with half the effort, which works well for broken relationships, as well as for life.
