Post Date December, 03 2023
Women all want their husbands to listen carefully to them, especially when they want to express important ideas. But in fact, even the best tempered men sometimes remain indifferent to these "chatters.". According to a recent report in the American magazine Women's Health, this reaction by men does not mean they don't care, but rather because men process information differently than women. Therefore, women may wish to change their posture and speak in male language and expression.
Communicate shoulder to shoulder. If you want to talk to your husband about thorny issues, such as when he is playing too crazy and neglecting his family, you should never adopt face-to-face conversation. Scott, a professor at Brown University who has been studying marriage for a long time? Hazman pointed out that in some sharp conversations, continuous, direct eye contact can cause men to fear, and when facing each other, men instinctively enter a "survival mode" - "fight or run.". Therefore, if you want to talk to him, it is best to choose a shoulder to shoulder position, such as walking together, driving, or sitting on the sofa watching TV.
Go straight to the topic. A recent study showed that men's brains treat men's voices as "speeches" and women's voices as "music", so men take same-sex voices more seriously. To ensure that your husband hears every word you say, your wife should say it briefly, clearly, loudly, and quickly. Professor Hazman pointed out that what men most want to hear is the core part of being straightforward, so it is best for women to speak directly to the topic.
Let him know you want to vent. A man is a natural "problem solver," and a frown indicates that he is thinking about how to solve a problem. When a wife tells her husband about a difficult situation, he actively believes that he should help the other party find a solution, rather than simply listening. Therefore, before confiding, women should let men know exactly what you want. It is best to start by saying, "I really need to tell these things that are kept in my heart. Just comfort me and comfort me."
Satisfy his self-esteem. Is it true that every time you make a request, he goes in one ear and out the other? You'd better flatter him at this moment. If you directly complain to him that "you never play with my friends," he is likely to jump up and contradict you. "But if you satisfy his self-esteem and say, 'You're so humorous! My friend must think you're great. Can you go out with us tonight?' This positive reinforcement will make it easier for him to accept your proposal.".
