1、 Treason and infidelity to marriage.
Any man's infidelity to marriage is the most direct way to harm women. On the other hand, he repeatedly contacted you, which was disloyal to his wife. Behind your love, there is such a desperate and sad woman. And if you marry him, can you completely trust him and not fall in love with another woman after marriage? The seed planted today is the bitter fruit that will taste tomorrow. Why should it be like this? Marriage is loveless, you can leave and start a family again. If you seek warmth and comfort through cheating, it may backfire and plunge yourself into endless pain.
2、 No sense of family responsibility.
A man's sense of responsibility directly reflects his character. The more irresponsible a man is, the less family-centered he will become after marriage, the less he will love his wife, the less he will love his children, and even he may not be able to shoulder the burden of supporting his family. A woman who has been with him for eight years and invested eight years of youth has not yet received a certificate, which indicates that his wife loves him very much, but he does not know how to love the woman who pays for himself. For you, what he calls insecurity and asking you to divorce first is actually a sign of cowardice. He is afraid that you won't be able to leave when the time comes, and he has no way out. So, simply step on two boats. Such a man is not responsible for you or her, so why should he take care of him.
3、 Desperate, no future.
The greatest wish of a woman is to be treasured and cared for by a good man for a lifetime. He said that in the future, handing you over to another person seems to be very righteous, and everything is for your sake. In fact, for him, it was his girlfriend of eight years who was more important. In his bones, he couldn't accept your second marriage. After all, he doesn't love you that much, and all the sweet talk is just to coax you for a while. The reluctance to part with your departure is only a temporary manifestation of hypocrisy.
After a marriage, when we are strangers, we can choose to divorce. When a relationship loses its meaning, let it go in time. Although painful, only by leaving can we meet new people and meet feelings that are suitable for us. Don't rush into a new relationship. Only by loving rationally can you find true happiness.