Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband and I are in free love and have been together for more than five years, but my boyfriend's family objected to being with us, because my boyfriend is local and I am from other places. My mother-in-law doesn't like other provinces. Later, my boyfriend insisted on staying with me again and again, and my family didn't object. After living together for more than five years, women need a name, so I proposed to register for marriage. After getting the marriage certificate, I found that I was pregnant. At that time, when we were doing online business, my husband was always with me, and then he went to another city to start a company with his friends. His friends all liked to hang around outside. I was worried that my husband would also become bad. He came back to see me once half a month during my pregnancy, about two to three days at a time.
When I found out that he had an affair, four months after I gave birth to my child, he brought women from other places to that city and became employees of our joint-stock company. They rented a house outside, and the husband hid it very well. He came home from 12:00 to 1:00 every night. We had a car, which we bought together before we got married. It was written with the husband's name. He often takes the woman out for supper. He doesn't spend the night outside, so I have no doubt,. But one thing is that I carry my mobile phone with me and take a shower with me. I feel something is wrong. Besides, we are not as close as we used to be. When we found out that he had an affair, we calmly asked him, and he said don't listen to other people's nonsense. There is no such thing. Later, I showed him the chat record, and he admitted that there was such a thing, and promised not to let her go back to the original city. He said it was impossible to be with her, and then asked his friend to buy her a ticket and send her away.
Although I have forgiven him for this matter, I feel uncomfortable when I think of the text messages he sent to and from his wife. We already have a child. Although he has an affair, I still love him. I don't know how to deal with the present day together. Later, I also saw that during the period of cohabitation with that girl, I also sent an ambiguous message with another girl. Did he step on three boats? Or is he really flirting? Although my husband swore that he would no longer contact with her, and he wanted this family, I had no confidence. I always have doubts. I'm afraid that my husband will be disgusted if it lasts for a long time. I said I would forgive him once, but I felt uncomfortable when I thought of them. How can I untie this knot? How to deal with it so that my husband can really change his mind and stop fooling around outside?
Ms. Zhao:
Four months after giving birth to the child, you can find that he has cheated. It is estimated that his cheating time can be pushed forward earlier. His extramarital affairs are not aimed at destroying marriage, but are mostly unsatisfied with sexual desire, seeking extramarital development to make up for the deficiencies in marriage. He can have multiple extramarital affairs one after another. He feels that this is the embodiment of his charm. If you have no objection, he doesn't feel guilty at all. Such extramarital affairs are not very destructive to marriage, but they are very harmful, which can make his wife lose her skills and physically and mentally exhausted.
To put an end to his extramarital affairs, first of all, we should find out the root of his cheating, improve his own shortcomings, and listen to his suggestions and opinions on you. This is the first step. Then, his extramarital affairs can be said to be related to his living environment. Every friend around him has a lover, but he does not have one. He will feel abnormal, so it is easy to cause him to cause extramarital affairs. Take more precautions against his friends and try to keep him away from his friends who love to fool around if possible.
It is not completely eliminated. The third will drive away one and then another. You cannot completely control his behavior. Only if he is willing to restrain himself for you, the third will have no place to start. Since you choose to forgive him, don't doubt him too much. Give him a trust and let him know that it is the king of your happiness to live up to your trust.
