My husband and I are college classmates and fellow citizens from the same province and city. With the same objective conditions, hardware and software, and age, we walked into the besieged city hand in hand with the urging of our parents after graduation.
At that time, we chose to stay in Beijing to work. In order to save rent, we rented in a community outside the Fifth Ring Road. Although it was not our own house, we made the house as warm as our own home. Since my work place is close to home, I go to the market to buy food and cook after work every day. My husband can eat delicious and hot food as soon as he comes home. I have a good childhood. Like all ordinary young couples, the lifestyle is limited to the gardens and shopping malls near the community. I think that is the happiest time when we are together.
One year after my marriage, I became pregnant. Because my parents worried that it would be inconvenient for me to live with a big belly, they called me every once in a while to urge me to go back to my hometown. They would help me take care of everything. I pushed off their good intentions, and then stood still for half a year. I began to fear this rapidly expanding little guy, and my life was getting worse and worse, and I couldn't take care of many things by myself. I can only compromise with my parents. Under their arrangement, I successfully entered a state-owned enterprise.
Not long after, I gave birth to my son in my hometown. My husband asked for leave to visit our mother and son, and he couldn't put his son down. At that time, in order to facilitate contact, we often chatted through QQ video. At 8 o'clock every night, my husband was online on time, and talked to us until 10 o'clock before he was offline. At the beginning of each month, he would fly back to Wuhan to reunite with us, and the day felt no big change.
Such days lasted for more than a year. Later, my husband became no longer keen on the online gathering every night. He said that the company's position had been adjusted, and his work was getting busier and busier, and he had to work overtime frequently. The frequency of his return to Wuhan has also changed from the previous one month to three months, and at the end of the year, he simply went home once every six months. My friend reminded me, "Husband and husband, within ten feet, will have problems if they are far away". I don't care too much. I think my husband and I have a strong relationship. Even the number of quarrels can be counted. Besides, my son is getting older, and there won't be too many changes.
Later, a girl named "Menger" told me on the phone that she had my husband's flesh and blood and asked me to sign a divorce with him as soon as possible. In the face of the sudden blow, I don't know how to deal with it at all. Looking at my son sitting on the ground playing with toys, my whole body trembled with anger. What should I do?
The life of "Cowherd and Weaver Girl" affects the feelings of husband and wife
In an era that is not suitable for advocating the life of "Cowherd and Weaver Girl", too long separation between husband and wife will bring many difficulties to both parties, including difficulties in work and study, difficulties in raising children and supporting the elderly. The most nerve-racking thing is, of course, the emotional inseparability, especially for young couples, sometimes even causing emotional crisis between couples.
In real life, it is not uncommon for couples to live apart from each other. Long-term separation can also provide opportunities for a third party to intervene. If their concentration is weak, it can easily lead to derailment.
How to resolve the emotional crisis of separation
The separation between two places does bring a lot of inconvenience to the couple's life. When the separation problem cannot be solved for the time being, don't be too upset. The couple should encourage each other to overcome the temporary difficulties, and never weaken the pure love because of the separation.
When there is temptation from the outside, a couple living in two places must tell the other party that they are married, and can't conceal it at all. When the other party is still entangled, they should resolutely refuse the other party's courtship, and absolutely can't have any ambiguity. In order to resist the temptation, you can turn your attention to your career, or recall the good time with your spouse, or try to solve the problem of separation between the two places. You can make the efforts of the organization, society and other aspects to bring the couples from different places to live together.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)