The 'wall grass' tends to be fond of the new and dislike the old when it reaches adulthood

Boys born in the 1980s set sail, accompanied by the spring breeze of reform and opening up, in a cadre's family. As the only child in the family, his arrival brought endless joy to the family, and his grandparents and parents regarded him as a treasure. Zhang Fan's every move became a source of conversation for her elders at home, and she thrived in such a greenhouse. At the age of 3 and a half, Zhang Fan, who had just learned to speak, had already developed his own ideas. One day, the whole family sat at the dining table, and while grandma was feeding Zhang Fan, she asked him, "Fan Fan, who do you love the four of us the most?" The young Zhang Fan answered without thinking, "Grandma." After hearing Zhang Fan's answer, grandma immediately smiled and bloomed.

His panicked answer made his mother, who was usually busy with work, feel sour in her heart, and even felt that his grandmother had taught him to say so beforehand. A "secret battle" broke out between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and Zhang Fan's beloved grandmother took great care of him from then on. The mother who was stimulated was not willing to be outdone. After work every day, she devoted almost all her time to communicating with Zhang Fan. Zhang Fan satisfied every toy she wanted, provided that Zhang Fan had to say that her favorite person was her mother. Slowly, Zhang Fan realized that his mother and grandmother would "compete for favor" for himself, so he learned to be the "wall grass". In front of his grandmother, he said he loved her the most, and in front of his mother, he said he loved his mother the most.

As time passed, Zhang Fan quickly reached the age of marriage. After a peaceful life of one and a half years, Zhang Fan and his wife found life completely uninteresting. Like herself, she is a spoiled and pampered wife who not only does not know how to do household chores, but sometimes even instructs herself to work. Zhang Fan can no longer find the feeling of being the "little sun" in his own small family. In order to regain his original feelings, he had an extramarital affair with a female colleague at work. Sailing between two women, she regained her original feeling.

Childhood experiences of being a 'wall top grass' increase the probability of infidelity after marriage

Under every seemingly reasonable or irrational action, there is a long history hidden. Behind those who are prone to cheating, there is also a childhood incentive. Everyone has probably encountered the problem of "loving their father more or their mother more" as they grow up. Of course, no matter who they are ultimately named from your mouth, it will arouse great favor from that person. They will cheer proudly, and their sense of satisfaction is self-evident. But in reality, it's not them who have the most satisfaction, but the child who sets the world in one sentence.

Because of this, parents, relatives, and friends will compete for favor from this child, which is also a triangular or even multifaceted secret battle. They are all desperately trying to make the child love themselves more. This kind of competition within the family has gradually developed a kind of love vanity in the child. In front of their father's sugar coated shells, they would say they love their father a little more; Under the gentle trap of their mother, they will say they love their mother a little more. When these spoiled "wallflower" children grow up, they become even less willing to a mundane emotional life. They need to constantly create "spoils" and triangular suspense to satisfy their vanity for love. So there is a wonderful rule: the more "wallflower" children are favored by their parents, the higher the probability of extramarital affairs in adulthood.