Around the 1990s, there was a piece of news to the effect that the husband despised his wife for not being a virgin and remained unhappy after marriage, which greatly affected the couple's relationship. Later, the wife helped her husband rape her niece to make up for her "flaws"! Finally, the couple paid a significant price for their foolishness - they were both imprisoned together.
Today, 20 years later, various new ideas are rapidly pouring in. However, it is unexpected that people's discussion on this issue is still in full swing, and there are even many articles online about how virgins are more noble than non virgins. Some of the viewpoints in the article are truly surprising. For example, only the genes of virgins are pure, such as a woman's uterus "sticking" to the semen of men who have had sexual intercourse, and so on. Even some highly educated people are willing to believe such ridiculous arguments. It can be imagined that men have put in so much effort to rationalize their thoughts!
The virgin complex can be traced back to the Primitive Society, because men at that time could not determine that the children born to their wives were their own.
In the Primitive Society, if men suspected that the children born to their wives were not their own, they would kill them. So we will find that young babies are mostly similar to their fathers at birth, and then they grow more and more like their mothers. This is a self-protection ability that humans have evolved over time. In order to ensure the continuity of their genes, men need to ensure that their wives have not had sexual relations with other men outside of themselves. Therefore, the best way is to marry a virgin.
In the feudal society (which is also similar in foreign countries), in order to maximize the prevention of helping others raise children and achieve the goal of genetic purification in the family, men developed this virginity complex to the extreme. They not only gave hymen many "magical" explanations, explained its value and significance with a lot of theories, but also created a series of ritualized things to show its rationality. All kinds of measures were ultimately aimed at covering up the self frustration caused by the lack of advanced science and technology to conduct genetic testing at that time.
Today, there are scientific methods to determine the blood relationship, but men still care about the hymen problem. In fact, it is the patriarchal mentality that objectifies women, poisoned by feudal ideology.
In feudal society, women did not have ownership of their bodies and had no right to control everything, including their thoughts and emotions. Because of this, women could be used for buying and selling at that time. Once it can be bought and sold as a commodity, it has the materialization connotation of the commodity, only existing as a male accessory. For a long time, there has been such a relationship between men and women, which has formed a very solid social reality and theoretical ideology of male superiority and female inferiority.
Now, this ideology is still controlling the minds of some people, causing them to forget that in modern society, women have long been rid of their social status of being objectified and enslaved, but rather a person with a fresh soul like him. When a man sees a woman as an object, he cannot respect her, nor can he engage in spiritual dialogue with her, let alone love.
Men with severe virginity complex are actually more affected by possessiveness and inferiority complex.
Men who view women as objects can give themselves a sense of superiority, thus concealing the deep sense of inferiority complex of 'I'm not good' and 'I don't deserve it'. Another manifestation of this sense of inferiority in the Virgo complex is the fear that women with sexual experience will criticize their sexual performance, as well as the fear that their sexual performance will be compared with others by their female partners, leading to their sense of self negation and frustration.
Inferior men, in order to rationalize their virginity complex, may consider non virgins unclean because they have accepted other men before. But he did not realize that it was precisely because he felt unclean that he had this impure inner feeling, known as "projection" in psychology. Because we all know that when a woman combines with the man she loves, she is actually driven by emotions to do what she likes, and emotions are always a beautiful thing.
Regarding men's possessiveness in the virginity complex, in simple terms, it is like Columbus being proud of being the first to discover the New World, and the millionaire being proud of having more women, which is no different from everyone's desire to be the first to conquer the highest mountain peak, and is also like everyone's desire for more money and higher power. Yes, these are not related to sex, only to desire and vanity.
Since the Virgo complex is created by men to control women, why do women also feel anxious and insecure because they are not virgins?
In short, the thousands of years long feudal society has allowed women to accept the control and baptism of this ideology generation after generation, and the psychological inertia of being objectified and controlled has deeply penetrated into the bone marrow. Women with insufficient self-awareness and independence often accidentally fall into the trap of the virgin complex carefully woven by men for them.
From a psychological perspective, men project their sense of impurity onto women, thereby freeing themselves from the feeling of impurity. At this time, some women choose to identify with this feeling of impurity, and then really think they are unclean. For example, in the news at the beginning, the woman who helped her husband rape her niece is like this.