Post Date December, 03 2023
The strongest emotions are mostly at the same energy level
There was an article on the internet about the original couple and mistress of the Republic of China. Looking at the stories of those old people who had already passed away, it was somewhat sad.
In their replies, many people denounced the men who abandoned their wives, who were scum men. They screamed out at the top of their lungs, and remembered the sentence forwarded by countless girls, "One day, the sword will be in hand, killing all the ungrateful dogs in the world." They couldn't help but dumbfounded.
I do think that emotional matters are mostly due to feelings that are congenial, come when they agree, and go when they disagree. It is morality and responsibility, not emotions, that can constrain one's own self. In essence, marriage and love run counter to each other.
Whether a relationship can last and be strong is largely a game between two people. Only those who are evenly matched can reach the end.
The same energy level is not only reflected in their family and background, but also in their talents, personalities, abilities, interests, and preferences.
Zhang Xueliang doesn't like Yu Fengzhi, who is more beautiful and dignified, but prefers Zhao Si, the social flower. It's just because she has a fiery and outgoing personality, and Zhao Si is more in line with his aesthetics.
Lu Xun, a radical revolutionary fighter, was naturally unable to express admiration for the little footed woman Zhu An.
If you seriously evaluate the three women related to Xu Zhimo, Zhang Youyi is actually more beautiful and gentle, and she has deeper feelings for Xu Zhimo. She is even tenacious. After being abandoned by Xu Zhimo with a large belly, she still lives beautifully and gracefully with her teeth clenched. She brought up her child, attended American schools, and became a strong woman. However, in the eyes of Xu Zhimo, a young Westernist, she is still just a dull and uninteresting rural woman. What he likes more is Lin Huiyin's gentle and intelligent talents, and Lu Xiaoman's charming and charming eyes, corners, and eyebrows are both amorous feelings.
Chairman Jiang, who once loved Chen Jieru, has been working hand in hand for so many years after their political marriage with Song Meiling. I'm afraid he has long been overwhelmed by Song Meiling's talent and demeanor and left Chen Jieru behind. Seeing the later photos, Chairman Jiang, who was wearing a bald head in his old age, cracked his lips and smiled like a child beside the elegant and moving Song Meiling. Is that what the so-called "holding your son's hand and growing old with him" means?
The most enviable thing for me is Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang, and the reason why they have been able to stay in love for many years has not changed, apart from their excellent moral character. I think the key reason is that both of them have a similar family background, are both scholarly and aristocratic families, and the combination makes both parents very happy. No one raised any objections, and their talents and learning are also comparable. Qian Zhongshu is full of knowledge and Yang Jiang is also proficient in foreign languages and excellent at writing. The most precious thing is that personality complements each other. Qian Zhongshu is a child's disposition, completely free from worldly pain. However, Yang Jiang is willing to take care of his life and handle world affairs for him—— I think the most perfect combination is this, right? "They are of the same family, have similar interests, complement each other's personalities, and are able to make a living with their words.".
Having said so much, I just want to make a point. Perhaps, a point that many people are unwilling to admit: Many times, you think your lover has failed you, but in fact, it is often because your growth cannot keep up with his footsteps. Many times, you have no choice but to experience setbacks in your love and be intervened by both parents of Yokohama. In fact, it is just that in the eyes of more rational parents and relatives, your conditions are truly incompatible.
In other words, you are not adversaries on one level, and there is no balance of strength to maintain the balance of the relationship between the two parties. The role that emotions can play is often minimal, and in the end, the harm may only be deeper.
There are always so many ordinary and ordinary girls who dream of Cinderella, hoping that one day they can meet their own prince, fall in love at first sight, fall in love, and cannot extricate themselves.
But then what?
A girl from a poor background, even if she is really destined to meet a domineering CEO. Can we definitely live a happy and beautiful life from now on?
Perhaps, more generally, in their love affair, she was always in fear, cautious, afraid to make trouble, afraid to pester, afraid to send text messages or phone calls, and even chose to swallow his words and accept his excuse when it became clear that he had another woman in the future.
However, it is because in this love relationship, they have never been evenly matched, and they are not rivals at all at the same level.
In an unequal relationship, the weaker party does not even have the qualifications to express dissatisfaction.
In "Love in a Fallen City," Zhang Ailing used the destruction of an entire city to complete the love between Fan Liuyuan and Bai Liusu. This is not that Granny Zhang, the founder of romantic novels, deliberately played with the romance of the Fallen City. However, after experiencing the decline of her family and the sophistication of the human world, she knows better that only when the country and the family are at stake, are the various customs and prejudices that permeate between Fan Liuyuan and Bai Liusu, Only to be scared away by the deafening artillery fire, leaving only two hearts that were constantly beating.
Sometimes love is not without, but it has never been so pure.
To be cruel, if ordinary people want to marry an aristocrat, they probably have to wait until the aristocrat is ruined.
Everyone envies Cinderella's good fortune, but this beautiful fairy tale itself has severely slapped the face of countless ordinary girls with dreams of a rich family: Cinderella is originally a noble, and her two sisters are truly nothing. Because of this, her beauty and exclusive aristocratic temperament may make the prince fall in love at first sight. The prince does not love her clothes, let alone her crystal shoes. And her sisters, never have a chance.
For a girl, her final life, including her love, should be a struggle for herself, so that she can be more calm and determined without fear and fear of loss. Only because she understands that at this moment, standing beside that person, in all aspects, is enough to match him, and she is not afraid, because she finally has enough confidence, To seize everything that belongs to you.
The person we are looking for should be the same as ourselves. If you want to be better, you must first strive to become a better person. Even in relationships, there are no shortcuts.
