Post Date December, 03 2023
In real life, husband and wife quarrel is a common phenomenon. Generally, the husband always "turns off" first, and the wife is still swearing or crying. After the "cold war", the husband and wife return to normal and enter another cycle.
Some people call this kind of concession of men "henpecked" or "henpecked". The idea of a generous man is to "step back". But I prefer to call it a strategic retreat of men.
The causes of marital quarrels are all-encompassing, omnipresent and numerous. In this case, it is more difficult to distinguish the right from the wrong. Ask a mediator or go to the court. The usual practice of the mediator is to "play fifty big cards", or try to save time, and persuade the husband to give in with the idea that men should be more generous than women; It is even more difficult to go to court, because the reasons between husband and wife are mostly not on the table, and are simply irrelevant to the reasons needed for judicial judgment. Therefore, there has been a saying since ancient times that "a clean official cannot break the domestic affairs".
There are many kinds of family contradictions, but the core contradiction is the contradiction between husband and wife. The contradiction between husband and wife is an essential link to maintain the family. Without the contradiction between husband and wife, the family will not be far away from separation. Therefore, the current situation of the family is always in a relative state, the balance is relative, and the contradiction is eternal. The current situation of the family is the result of the movement of contradiction between husband and wife. It is the process of continuous collision, continuous adaptation and mutual close between the two personalities of the husband and wife. In this process, the husband and wife are more or less constantly changing themselves to adapt to each other. What we usually call "husband and wife" is also generated in this process. If either party does not want to make any changes to adapt to the other party, the result is divorce.
After clarifying the cause, nature and role of marital conflict, we may better understand the strategic withdrawal of men. The role of husband in the conflict between husband and wife often varies from person to person. Whether it's introverted, timid, or extroverted, bold, you might as well fight each other. A bloody man can't have a little temper. This will not only make outsiders look down on him, but even his wife will think you are weak, but you should have a principle and a degree in mind.
There are contradictions, misunderstandings and dissatisfaction between husband and wife, and the explanation is unclear. A quarrel is also a good way to resolve. Don't make noise and keep quiet, which often makes things more out of control. Therefore, the quarrels that should come must come, and the quarrels that should come must also go on. When women argue, the more they say, the more they feel wronged and wronged, and the more they say, the more they feel justified. Men are absolutely inferior to women in this respect.
Therefore, as a man, whether you are dispassionate or angry, you need to grasp the strategic retreat, control the time of the quarrel, and move forward and backward freely. I feel that the heat is not enough. I can argue for a little more time. Once the heat is up, I apologize immediately. This makes your wife feel victorious, but you always control the fight. If you want to fight for a while, you can fight for a while. If you don't want to fight, you can stop fighting in time.
Of course, this man's withdrawal strategy is only effective for men who still want to maintain this family.
