Post Date December, 03 2023
'Rao Er' is a term used in Sichuan dialect for a man who is afraid of his wife. When the vast majority of men mock others for having "raked ears," they actually don't know how much they have. I once conducted a square style social survey and found that most men have a mentality of being afraid of their wives.
Why are Chinese men afraid of their wives?
Psychologists have analyzed that men's "fear" of their wives cannot be simply understood as fear, but rather have their own thoughts. Some people are known for their good temper and obedient to their wives. If he raised a contrary opinion, his wife would be furious and say, "You're going to rebel!" Due to his wife's power, he simply let her make up his mind in case of trouble. This kind of man who is really afraid of his wife, when choosing a marriage partner, subconsciously wants to find a woman with a stronger personality; After marriage, being submissive in front of one's wife is, in a sense, a desire to continue seeking maternal protection.
Some men seem to listen to their wives' words on the surface and do what they should do behind their backs, but their wives can't keep an eye on them at all times. This kind of man's "fear" of his wife is actually a unique tactic. In order to reduce family conflicts, they do not listen to his wife's chatter and act openly and secretly towards her. They usually don't want to work hard for household chores, so they leave their wives to take care of some old sesame seeds and rotten millet. Their wives the final say, and they are happy to ignore everything. When they say something at home, you can make your wife happy and yourself happy. But in the face of certain major events, they usually grasp their principles and make the final decision by coaxing and deceiving themselves.
What kind of man is afraid of his wife? The following six types of men are mostly afraid of their wives.
Firstly, she is talkative and meticulous, with a motherly personality.
As the saying goes, saying many things leads to failure, but in fact, it is the same in marriage. If a man talks too much, it can cause women to get bored. As far as the sky is always blue, few women in the world will like men's words. On the other hand, men themselves may also fall into the hands of their wives for some mistakes and blame due to excessive talking. In such a situation, it is very easy to form a situation where the wife is strong and the husband is weak.
In addition, in terms of this psychological need of men themselves, they always subconsciously regard the silence between the two as awkward, and always try to break the "deadlock" by actively speaking and finding words. In fact, they are wrong. Many times, silence can make a man's heart richer, his image more stable, and his marriage healthier.
Secondly, there is no skill or stable economic source.
Forgive the sky for always being blue. To be frank, if a man lacks a skill or a stable source of income. It's mostly like a fish without water. Both the family and living conditions are very worrying. Society is so cruel and realistic. In Chinese tradition, men must have a career, economic ability, and spit like nails.
This concept is deeply ingrained. As a man, never use any reason to expect your wife to be tolerant towards you in this regard. If this goes on like this, perhaps you may not even be able to look up to yourself!
Thirdly, one cannot take care of their own lives and grew up in the pampering of their family.
For decades, China's family planning and traditional patriarchal ideology have created many boys in society who cannot take care of themselves and have grown up in the dote of their families. Nowadays, they have all grown up and become husbands and fathers, living a life of their own small families. And at this time, neither the wife nor the children will treat them like their parents, let alone let her do everything like her sister does. In this family, he is just a pillar, and if he can't lift it, he has to lift it.
So the problem arises, few women can endure a man's life for a long time and cannot take care of themselves. This situation will inevitably expand the situation of strong women and weak men, without anyone taking the initiative. This will become an unconscious law. The soil for the survival of male chauvinism has become less and less, and it is not the same as before. The situation where men stretch out their clothes and eat their mouths will only make marriage more precarious. So the truth is very simple. If you ask someone to help you with any small matter, then you have to show some respect and respect to them, right?
Fourthly, there is no principle in doing things and a particularly good personality.
The sky is not always blue and alarmist. A man without principles is very sad, and this sadness will run through his family, career, and entire life. So, as a man, you can have a good personality, but you must not be without principles and your own bottom line. This principle includes treating one's own wife and children, and on this fateful scale, men cannot let go at all. Giving up is redemption, and it is even more irresponsible towards their families.
Women are actually very intelligent animals, at least smarter than men, and more capable of observing facial expressions than men. If a man doesn't give way to a woman in a principled way, then the woman must be crazy. She will forget, be domineering, and hypocritical, eventually not only won't recognize you, but also won't recognize herself. So, it is a virtue for a man to give in to his wife, but he cannot give in to everything. In the face of big things and big things, it is very scary without a little male domineering.
Fifth, have a certain level of knowledge cultivation and understand tolerance.
Actually, this type of man is different from the first four. A man with knowledge and tolerance, despite often exhibiting a fear of wife in front of outsiders. However, this fear is not really fear, but a kind of love, a kind of wisdom. He knows his wife better than anyone else, and he can control his woman at the most critical moment. He and his wife are not of the same level and number, he is like a father watching his daughter's mischievous and mischievous behavior.
Sixth, having filial piety and a sense of responsibility.
Once there was a filial son who said this to the sky forever blue: Everyone said I am a filial son, but in fact, filial piety is not as good as filial piety. A truly intelligent filial son never goes against his wife. He will use many methods and love to motivate his wife to be filial with him. Only in this way can filial piety be true and not compromised!
In fact, this "filial son" has representative insights. The reason why he is "afraid" of his wife is because he hopes that his wife can accept and understand his filial piety, and that by listening to his wife's words, he can make her accept him in a balanced manner to show filial piety to his parents. There is a psychological and emotional exchange within this, which is also a reflection of men's wisdom and sense of responsibility.
In short, the word 'fear' is not scary at first. As long as men have a high sense of responsibility for their families and loved ones, 'fear of wife' is actually a kind of gentleman's demeanor. They can often be reasonable and lenient in front of their wives, and turn hostility into friendship.
