In people's impression, the quality of sexual life is one of the most important factors affecting the quality of marriage. Is this really the case? From the results of this survey, it is evident that some women hold different views on this matter. Although many people believe that sex is indeed an important reason for marriage, sex is not necessarily the most important factor for marriage; Some women even believe that sexual activity separated from marriage is easier.
Sex is an important reason for marriage
The foundation of love is physiological needs and instinctive venting. I strongly agree with the view of a foreign teacher in college. I asked her what marriage means to her, and she said, 'Sex'
I have been in love with him repeatedly, and he has sincere feelings for people, but it is easy to transfer.
Later on, for a period of time, he stopped doing that. I helped him with it for half a day before he could get it started.
He has a sense of dependence on me and feels that I can do it sexually, but he can't. Later, he finally made up his mind to marry me, and I wanted to have some connection with this
A woman who works in hotel services also believes that sexual activity is related to marriage desires, but it is a completely different logic. She drew this view from her observations of her girlfriends around her: "Girls who have gone crazy all want to get married." She said she has had several boyfriends, and the longest one of her opposite sex friends lasted for four years. She believes that, When people are young, they should play. After seeing everything they should see, they should make a decision. "She admitted that after playing, she thought about getting married." When I was 21 or 22 years old, I really wanted to get married
Sex is not necessarily the most important aspect of marriage
There is a viewpoint that sexual harmony is the most important factor in the quality of marriage, and from my survey, it is not entirely true. In some marital relationships, the sexual relationship between the two parties is not very good, but due to the good relationship, the quality of the marriage is still very high. For example, there is a woman who said that her husband has not given her sexual pleasure for many years after marriage, and she has been relying on herself to solve the problem; But at the same time, she also said she was very satisfied emotionally because she knew her husband was genuinely good to her and she was willing to grow old together with him. This indicates that for the stability and durability of some marriages, the quality of sexual relationships is not decisive.
A woman who has been separated from her husband for a long time said: We hardly have time to be together except during the winter and summer vacations. There was a time when my wife couldn't bear it anymore, and it was indeed a torment to his body. He was serious and reserved about sex, and it was hard to imagine having such a relationship with another girl. So we had to solve it ourselves. We talked about divorce multiple times, but after talking about it, neither of us did it, and if we didn't do it, we dragged it down. The two of us got back together, "she added In a marital relationship, time can play a significant role. Time can condense into a long and profound thing, which cannot be cut off at once
A woman in her forties who is still single is very eager for marital life and believes that sex is not absolutely indispensable for marriage: "I think what people say is wrong, it seems that sex is necessary. Having a harmonious sexual life is certainly good, but it can also be done without it
She described her loneliness like this: I am most afraid of holidays, and there is no shadow swaying at home, like a tomb. Every day after work, there is no one waiting for me at home, and I am not in a hurry to see anyone, which feels very bad. Although Confucius said 'cautious solitude', although being alone can do things, I can't stand being alone. Nowadays, sometimes I deliberately avoid music and beautiful scenery, afraid of touching my loneliness. I feel quite pitiful, Her perspective on sex and marital relationships may be a 'second best' perspective, but she does view this issue in this way.
Sex is easy when separated from marriage
Separation of sex and marriage, and long-term considerations, can make it easier. This requires mutual appreciation from both parties. The important thing is a sense of closeness. Some people can speak well, but when they touch you, you are particularly unwilling
A divorced woman compared sex within and outside of marriage: After divorce, we occasionally had sexual intercourse as lovers. During marriage, I only had about one pleasure every ten sexual experiences, while outside of marriage, I had nine out of ten experiences. I think this is because sex is a duty within marriage, and now it is a necessity that both parties share. He has a fixed companion who comes to me to carry that girl on his back. He comes to me every half month to once a month
A single woman holds the view that "getting married is not very important, but it is important to have a sexual partner
The impact of parental sexual activity on children
Many survey respondents mentioned the impact of children on their sexual life. A woman described her experience as follows: "My child is always causing trouble. Once our daughter in elementary school saw us, and she cried and said, 'What shameful things are you doing?' I couldn't explain to my daughter, so I changed it to sleeping with my daughter on Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and my lover on Tuesday, Thursday, and Saturday. My daughter asked me, 'Who are you good to me and Dad?' I said 50% to 50%, and she didn't do it. She insisted on 51%
Another woman expressed her opinion on this issue: "Don't hug, kiss or lie together in front of the child. If possible, try not to sleep in the same room with the child, or else half of the child will wake up. It's too bad. This is a destruction of human nature
In terms of the relationship between sex and marriage, sex is definitely a very important factor, but it is not as important and indispensable as people imagine; At least not for some people. In people who are more 'old-fashioned', sex in marriage is considered dispensable; Among trendy women, sex outside of marriage is more attractive. Both come to the same end through different paths, separating sex and marriage.
It can be predicted that with the further civilization of social culture, the norms of marriage as the only legal channel for sex will become increasingly non binding, and the social monitoring (Foucault's "gaze" image) on the issue of freely using one's own body to seek happiness will become weaker, and social public opinion will become more tolerant towards this.