The principle of bullying the weak and fearing the hard in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

"Bullying the weak and fearing the hard" seems to be a kind of nature. Weak meat and strong food compete for natural selection, which is also a conclusion. In the animal world alone, the weak are bullied and can only live in isolation, and the strong can be the king. Even the stray cats in the park are also fat and thin. Why? Fat people grab more food because they "bully the soft", while thin people can only eat leftovers because they "fear the hard" and watch the food being robbed.

This principle is almost everywhere, from the whole biological world to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most troublesome thing for married women. If you are lucky to meet a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is really lucky. If you are lucky to meet a bad mother-in-law or bad daughter-in-law, what should you do? Countless facts tell us that it is impossible to solve this problem by simply tolerating.

One example is this. Wang Chun is a reasonable woman. Because her husband loves her so much, she takes "tolerance" to her mother-in-law who always finds fault and speaks ill of her, in order to repay her husband's affection. Her mother-in-law does not always show the "evil" side. She is a yes-man and dare not speak loudly in front of another daughter-in-law. Because the other daughter-in-law is a shrewd woman, she dares to contradict her mother-in-law loudly, sometimes she is a little too much, but that is why she has the advantage in both voice and momentum, so she doesn't dare to dictate in front of her.

Wang Chun couldn't figure it out at the beginning. She was so good to her mother-in-law. If she wanted to scold her, she would bear it. She would buy everything she wanted... but how could she be treated so unfairly? Later, she also wanted to understand that people are "bullying". Therefore, she began to resist. As soon as she changed her soft voice, she also began to speak loudly and argue with her mother-in-law. Sometimes she even quarreled. But because her mother-in-law was deliberately finding fault, she was always reasonable. When her mother-in-law finally said that she could not, she had to admit defeat. From then on, the mother-in-law dared not make trouble in front of Wang Chun.

The above is a real example. Another example is similar: the attitude of the same mother-in-law towards the two daughters-in-law is really very different. She obeys the older daughters-in-law, but she doesn't like the younger daughters-in-law. In the eyes of the eldest daughter-in-law, this mother-in-law is also like this. In the eyes of the youngest daughter-in-law, this is an evil mother-in-law. But there is only one mother-in-law, so whether mother-in-law is good or bad depends on her attitude. The eldest daughter-in-law has been wandering in the society for a long time, and has been doing sales. A woman can gain a foothold in the society by doing sales. Generally speaking, she is very capable. She can do both kindness and kindness to her mother-in-law. On the one hand, she knows how to win over her mother-in-law, and on the other hand, she can't tolerate being bullied at her own loss; But the little daughter-in-law is different. Her childhood living environment has only taught her to be patient. Even in the face of a mother-in-law who is always critical of her, she is also dare to be angry, so she can bully her with every inch.

The mother-in-law is not born hard or soft, which depends on whether the daughter-in-law is soft or hard.

Similarly, if a weak mother-in-law meets a daughter-in-law like a shrew, if she doesn't want to be bullied, she should also refer to the principle of bullying.