Post Date December, 03 2023
Men like women to be gentle and considerate, sexy and beautiful, industrious and able to keep a family... Women always think men are like men, why not listen to them?
What do men expect from the woman they love? Body, appearance, ability, family background and personality may all be possible, but a sincere intimate relationship begins when the man feels that the woman "really loves him".
When love is only based on unilateral needs and feelings, it is like a fragile glass ball, which will shatter upon collision. However, when women can admit that all the emotional difficulties are actually due to each other's trying to understand and like each other better, men will no longer become the only inconsiderate and unwilling to pay love in the relationship.
To "really love a man" means: avoid criticizing his motivation to love you; Avoid putting him in the category of gender - for example, it is always the case with picky men, and it is always the case with men; To understand his ability and avoid asking him to pay more than he can; And avoid unfairly shifting the responsibility to him when there is a problem in the relationship.
After talking with hundreds of men about their ideal intimate relationship, we collected the following "men's declaration":
Men's hopes and needs:
"When I put forward that she makes me feel stressed, she can readily accept it without accusing me of being picky or not loving her. I hope she can draw closer to each other according to the way we discussed."
"She can admit that she also has a selfish side. I am not the only self-centered person. Her own contribution to love is limited, and sometimes she just uses me to meet her requirements. In addition, I don't want her subconscious to hide some stereotypes and negative feelings about men."
"She knows that communication should be two-way. When we can calmly discuss the reasons after a dispute, I hope she knows that my fierce reaction is partly caused by her influence. I don't want to be referred to as" the problematic party "or" not knowing how to love "
"She loves the real me, not the perfect me in her fantasy. I don't want to satisfy her romantic fantasy, because I know that the reality is not so, and the result may make her more disappointed."
"She will not sacrifice other things around her because of me or our relationship; because she will make me feel compelled to pay more than I am willing to pay. In other words, I hope the woman I love can understand that when I pay less than she expected, it is not necessarily my fault."
"She can allow me to have my own opinions and will not force me to change my opinions because she thinks my opinions are inappropriate"
"When confronted with problems, she can fight side by side with me; when we have disputes, she can see it as a way of communication to close each other, instead of thinking that I am asking questions to find trouble."
"She won't ask me too much to exceed my ability to make her happy. I don't want her to change herself to cater to me, and I want me to be responsible for her sacrifice, "She doesn't just tell me that she has any dissatisfaction with our relationship, but wants to put forward some ways to improve it. I don't want to always guess her idea. Is she unhappy now? When a problem occurs, it is not enough to be told that it exists; I hope she can solve it with me."
"I may be a more self-centered person, but I don't want my motives misunderstood, and I don't want to be considered as neglecting this relationship when I do something wrong."
"She can give me what I want; not what she wants me to get."
"She will not overestimate or underestimate me. I am just an ordinary person - with both advantages and disadvantages. I have the same weak side as her."
I believe that when women understand the struggles men face in the relationship and the traditional relationship between men and women is changing day by day, love will also make both parties feel more satisfied. In fact, a happy gender relationship can not only make both sides enjoy a healthy life, but also get rid of the tragedy of "separation due to understanding" between the two sexes for a long time.
